Dalya's Other Country
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DALYA’S OTHER COUNTRY is a timely documentary that follows the real-life challenges of one displaced Syrian teenager and her family. Shot over four years as the Syrian civil war uprooted millions, this highly acclaimed film comes at an important time as America focuses on its immigration and refugee policies. Dalya, the only Muslim at a private Catholic high school in Los Angeles, must straddle her two worlds while navigating her teenage years and her religious faith. Dalya comes across as an ordinary Southern California teenager. She takes selfies and goes to prom. She plays sports and hangs out at the mall. She is also the only student at her high school who wears a hijab. While Dalya’s mother is tasked with redefining herself after leaving both her country and husband, Dalya's brother takes on the role of ushering the family through their resettlement. Viewers are brought into the intimate world of this family as they tackle complex experiences, including immigration, assimilation, divorce, and feminism, against the backdrop of mounting tensions surrounding America’s Muslim immigration policies.
Library Journal | Ellen Druda, Half Hollow Hills Community Library
"An uplifting film that demonstrates the importance of refugee immigration and diversity in a warm and subtle way."
BOOKLIST | Candace Smith
"As tensions mount in Syria, Rudayna and her daughter, Dalya, relocate to California, where Dalya’s brother lives. Filmed over a four-year period, this sensitive program follows Dalya and her mother settling into Los Angeles. Dalya, the only Muslim at a private Catholic girls’ high school, stands out in her hijab but is soon participating in classes, athletics, and social activities. Meanwhile, Rudayna decides to attend community college. When filmmakers pay a yearly visit with the family, Dalya and her mother describe their concerns and triumphs in increasingly better English. A visit from Dalya’s father (who took on another wife in Syria, contributing to Rudayna’s decision to leave) is emotional. Dalya is torn between loving her new country and missing her old life, while her mother is embracing newfound freedoms. This fine film captures both the trials and the rewards of merging two cultures."
Troy University | Aaron Hagler, Assistant Professor of Islamic History
"Following up on her fascinating documentary The Light in Her Eyes, which focuses on the Syrian conservative preacher Houda al-Habash and her school for girls to learn to recite the Qur'an, Julia Meltzer's Dalya's Other Country explores similar themes of the relationship of Islam to Feminism. While the Light in Her Eyes is set in Damascus shortly before the outbreak of the terrible Syrian civil war, Dalya's Other Country follows Dalya, her mother Rudayna, and her brother Mustafa, as they continue to adjust to life in Los Angeles after fleeing that war. Houda is a teacher, and Dalya is a high schooler. These very different women, experiencing life in different regions of the world, are thematically tied by the need to reconcile a conflict between their own heterodox feminism and the more "traditional" values of many of the most important people in their lives. Both Houda and Dalya, compelling and talented as they are, demonstrate that this "conflict" is nowhere near as simple as it can often seem. Meltzer's masterful and empathetic storytelling would make either movie (or, better yet, both) an excellent addition to any course on Islamic Studies (Islam and Gender in particular) and Refugee Studies."
University of South Carolina Upstate | Dr. David Damrel, Associate Professor of Religion
"Dalya's Other Country follows four years in the life of a teenage Syrian Muslim girl and her family as they adjust to American society and experience the opportunities and the obstacles that U.S. life presents on a daily basis. The film engages provocative here-and-now issues in American society -- topics such as immigration, culture, religion, and what it is like to be seen as new and different -- but always within the natural frame of Dalya's life at school, with her friends and family and especially in her relationship with her mother, Rudayna. Ms. Meltzer's film is deeply honest, relatable and human, and by letting her protagonists speak for themselves the film invites productive classroom and community conversation. Dalya is a first-rate resource for teaching that intersects with so much of what we talk about in our classes -- religion and difference, multi-culturalism, gender and current events – in a way that students and audiences respond to easily."
University of Illinois at Urbana-Champaign | Maryam Kashani, Assistant Professor, Departments of Gender and Women's Studies & Asian American Studies
"Dalya's Other Country is a starting point for important discussions about the immigrant and refugee experience and Arab and Muslim girlhood. The film also charts the pain, confusion, joy, and exuberance of teenage life in immigrant Los Angeles. While Dalya is the only Muslim girl in her Catholic high school, the film gives a glimpse into how she is also one of many young women of color in the film who are navigating their ways into adulthood. Dalya is a compelling figure whose complex relationships to family, country, religion, and her own future will resonate with young people. The film would work well in Gender Studies, Arab and Muslim Studies, Ethnic Studies, and Immigrant and Refugee Studies classrooms."
University of Oklahoma | Joshua Landis, Director of Center for Middle East Studies
"Julia Meltzer's new documentary Dalya's Other Country is brilliant. Tragedy, tears, and triumph are all recorded in this stunning exploration of one family over many years. A tough mother who divorces her merchant husband because he takes a second wife without telling her. A son in his 20s who must become the man of the family, and the charming and beautiful young daughter who just wants to have fun, but seeks to be a 'good' and obedient Muslim. This delicate and moving exploration of the immigrant experience will take its place among the very best in this genre."
The Globe and Mail, Canada's national newspaper | Sheema Khan, columnist and author of Of Hockey and Hijab: Reflections of a Canadian Muslim Woman
"Dalya's Other Country is a poignant documentary of cultural dislocation, compounded with the dislocation of war and family break-up. As we follow Dalya Zeno, from her arrival to suburban L.A. as a 13-year-old to her graduation from high school, we witness the remarkable journey of a young woman seeking to navigate and shape her many identities (Syrian, American, Muslim) into a complex, multi-faceted individual of the 21st century. In one sense, it reflects the universal odyssey of youth in today's globalized world, seeking to find their individuality in an increasingly complex world."
Al-Quds Bard College for Arts & Sciences | Stephanie Saldaña, lecturer and author of "A Country Between: Making a Home Where Both Sides of Jerusalem Collide" and "The Bread of Angels: A Journey to Love and Faith"
"Dalya’s Other Country is a moving, intimate portrait of one Syrian girl’s journey from war-torn Aleppo to Los Angeles, where she becomes the only Muslim in a Catholic school. But it is equally about a young woman’s journey into adulthood against the backdrop of radical changes both in the Syria she fled and the America she has adopted. With her independent spirit and the honesty she brings to everything she does, Dalya is irresistible, and we can't help rooting for her through challenges large and small, from convincing her parents to let her attend the prom to navigating her feelings about fleeing Syria. Viewers may come to the movie to learn more about Islam and immigration in America, but the film is more deeply an invaluable way to begin to understand the very real humans whose lives are upended by politics in America and abroad. It is almost impossible to watch this film without asking, at the end: What would I do if this happened to me? Would I be as strong as Dalya?”
The American University of Iraq, Sulaimani | Edith Szanto, Professor of Middle Eastern History
"The value of the documentary is its ability to address high school and college students. It is politically relevant not only because of Trump’s current 'Muslim Ban' but because it tells a timeless story of how a shy girl transforms into an outspoken activist. Dalya’s story is an American success story. It is a hopeful and sensitive narrative of overcoming obstacles, and it brings up topics such as how to deal with identity, political and family tragedy in an era of hate and fear.”
Hampshire College | Robert Meagher, Professor of Humanities
"I think it's a must–such a strong, positive, heartening message, just the right antidote to the poison in the air. We need to build bridges not walls and Dalya's Other Country has done that here."
Temple University | David Allen, Sociology Professor
"Dalya's Other Country is rare and quite unique. It hits directly upon giving the viewer a real sense of what's involved in a Syrian family, broken apart and moving from being at home in one culture and country to another. There's nothing neat or a final catharsis to this experience. The story unfolds by focusing principally on a young girl becoming woman Dalya, but it expands upon her life world by showing her entire family and the struggles they endure both together and apart. One could not hope to spread a more fruitful hour watching a poignant story told on film."
KPCC (Southern California Public Radio) | A. Martínez, host of Take Two
"The documentary hits on many points: assimilation, Islamophobia, feminism. But one of the strongest themes is the relationship between Dalya and her mom, Rudayna."
Citation
Main credits
Meltzer, Julia (film producer)
Meltzer, Julia (film director)
Zeno, Mustafa Rony (film producer)
Aksh, Rudayna (interviewee)
Zeno, Dalya (interviewee)
Other credits
Cinematographer, Anne Etheridge; editor, Catherine Hollander; music, Asma Maroof and Daniel Pineda.
Distributor subjects
Women's Studies; Sociology; Islamic Studies; Religious Studies; Migration StudiesKeywords
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[instrumental music]
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- We were sleeping one night.
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We heard, like, a big bomb
around our house
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in Aleppo, in Syria.
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So we had to run out of our bed
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and go into
the hallway and stay.
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At that time, the war started.
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People start to kidnap girls.
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Sometimes they stop
the school bus,
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and she disappear.
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Sometimes she doesn\'t come back.
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[instrumentals]
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The war didn\'t leave
any choice for me.
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I had to come here
with my daughter.
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[singing]
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- The last day
before I left Syria
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I was with my friends,
like, in class.
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I was crying so much,
and then all my teachers
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made me tell them
that I\'m coming back.
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Ah, I\'m coming.
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- Is it done?
\'Cause we have to go.
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It\'s already 7:35.
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- We came June, 2012.
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We put her in a private school
to help her
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because she has a scarf,
she doesn\'t
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speak English very well...
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- I\'ll just go bring my
backpack.
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Bye, Mom.
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[radio host speaking]
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- The worst traffic in the U.S.
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The average commuter
wasted about...
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- Bye, Saf.
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[car door slams]
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- Place your hand over
your heart and say with me...
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Both: I pledge allegiance
to the flag
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of the United States of America,
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and to the Republic
for which it stands,
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one nation under God,
indivisible,
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with liberty and justice
for all.
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- Please be seated.
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- Jennifer?
- Here.
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- Natasha?
- When I first came here,
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it was really hard for me
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to get in the environment.
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Well, first I didn\'t want to be
in a all-girls\' Catholic school.
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I\'m the only one
that has my headscarf on.
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[speaking Latin]
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Honestly, I didn\'t really
want to put it on.
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I kind of did it for my parents.
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[both giggling]
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Everyone was, like, asking me
why do you have it on?
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I would tell them I have it on
because I\'m Muslim.
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And they tell me what...
But why in your religion
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why do you put it on?
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I say, to protect us.
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To protect the women.
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- [singing] Amen, amen
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Amen, amen
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- When I go to churches
I\'m totally, like,
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okay with that even though
I\'m the only Muslim.
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I don\'t pray to Jesus.
Jesus is a prophet.
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Jesus to me is not God.
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But then I feel
the presence of God, too.
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- Behold the Lamb of God.
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Behold him who takes away
the sins of the world.
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Blessed are those called
to the supper of the lamb.
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Lord, I am not worthy.
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- In Syria everyone\'s the same,
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but here one is Mexican,
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one is Filipino, one is Korean,
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one is Middle Eastern...
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like, each one is different.
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Each one is raised
in different cultures.
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[chatter, giggling]
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[girls giggling]
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- He\'s about this tall.
- Oh, six feet.
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I thought you said
he was six years old.
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I was like, Hannah.
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- Wait, did he
send you that picture?
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- Hannah!
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- Bad girl, stop.
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- I\'ve lived a certain way
for 13 years,
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and now it\'s like everything
is just different.
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[instrumental music]
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My dad didn\'t want me to be here
at all in the United States.
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He thought if I grew up here
I would be such a bad girl.
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I just miss, like,
everything with my dad.
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He\'s my best friend.
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No one knows
that my parents are divorced.
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- In my religion it\'s okay for
the man to get married to two,
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three, four wives.
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Before, when I was in Syria,
my husband decide
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to get married
to another woman behind my back.
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He didn\'t ask me.
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He didn\'t give me a choice
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whether I accepted
to live with him
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while he\'s going
with another wife.
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He thought maybe after
a few month I\'ll accept that.
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No, I can\'t accept
that my husband
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will be with another woman.
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At that time
my marriage fall apart,
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and then my country too.
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So two reasons actually push me
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to leave Syria as soon as I can.
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- Since Dalya and my mum arrived
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I\'ve had to jump
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into the role of a dad
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and head of household.
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- How are you doing?
- Good, thank you.
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How are you?
- Good.
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I have a bag.
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My dad went to Turkey.
Dalya and my mom came here.
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- No, I\'m gonna go.
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I\'m saving up money.
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- You\'ve been saying that,
but did you save up anything?
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- I spent it all on shopping.
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- Well, there you go.
- [laughs]
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- Whoa.
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- Oh, my God.
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I grew up in Syria,
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then I came here
when I was 19 for college.
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Dalya and my mom came here
without my father.
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My dad couldn\'t
really leave the region.
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He exports olive oil,
and that\'s where his work is.
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As the eldest child in Arab
culture, you kind of grow up
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knowing that you are next
in line for taking charge.
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[atmospheric music]
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Can\'t see anyone.
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- Hi.
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- Hi.
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- That\'s eeny, meeny,
miny, moe in Arabic.
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- Oh, okay.
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I was really shocked
00:10:14.833 --> 00:10:17.699
when I found out
my dad got married.
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I was really mad about it
because, like,
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I always see my mom cry
and she\'s just sad.
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Everyone wants to, like,
have the perfect family
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with the parents together
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and siblings together
and everyone happy,
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but then that\'s not the case.
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[laughing] Okay.
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I\'m very sure
a lot of my friends,
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their dads got, like,
married or,
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like, they cheated on their mom.
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It\'s not something
you talk about.
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It\'s just something
embarrassing kind of.
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[overlapping chatter,
squeals, laughter]
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[overlapping chatter]
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[instrumental music]
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- Come on, Kylie!
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[buzzer blares]
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- It\'s okay, Kylie.
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- You\'ve got this.
- Rosie, go in there.
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Get in there.
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Inside, Rosie!
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Where Dalya is.
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[instrumental music]
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[cheers and applause]
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- Okay, good job!
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[buzzer blares]
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[whistle tweets]
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- Before, I was
scared of doing everything.
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I wouldn\'t do sports,
I didn\'t join basketball.
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I was too scared.
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Oh, I don\'t know
how to play that.
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I can\'t learn.
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- And speed-wise,
I don\'t want someone...
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- It doesn\'t matter
if I\'m a hijabi,
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I found out
that I can do whatever.
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Okay?
So make sure... listen...
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- Good luck, Dalya.
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[whistle tweets]
- Ooh...
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Wow.
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[whistle tweets]
[referee, indistinct]
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- Why are you laughing?
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- \'Cause I wasn\'t good.
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- I\'m still proud of you
for trying.
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You have a long way to go,
obviously, but...
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- Yeah.
- I can tell you that
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you\'re running actually
a lot better than last year.
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- Yeah, it\'s because
I joined track.
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- It\'s because you joined track,
exactly I was gonna say that.
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- I think your main problem
is most of your team,
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they\'re acting like
they\'re scared from the ball.
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I mean they... you\'re not
getting close.
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You have to get into it.
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[instrumental music]
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- When I came here,
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I stayed like somebody
is tying my hand.
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I was crying a lot,
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in a very bad situation.
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My son suggests for me
to go to a college,
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and it was big step for me.
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My life in Syria,
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it was just cooking, cleaning,
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having people over, that\'s it.
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I feel like I\'m
in a different planet.
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The technology... nobody helped me
to know what I should do,
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where I should register,
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what I should... so many
things to learn.
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- Hello.
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- Hi.
- How are you?
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- I\'m good, and you?
- Fine, thank you.
00:15:01.933 --> 00:15:03.699
- Ready for the test?
- I was... Yeah.
00:15:03.700 --> 00:15:05.265
Well, half and half.
00:15:05.266 --> 00:15:09.299
Now I\'m here,
I have to be part of this life,
00:15:09.300 --> 00:15:11.833
otherwise I\'m gonna be
by myself.
00:15:14.333 --> 00:15:15.865
- Dalya, are you going
to the locker?
00:15:15.866 --> 00:15:18.599
- Yeah,
I have to go to my locker.
00:15:18.600 --> 00:15:20.365
- Oh, yeah, remember,
I put your gift in there.
00:15:20.366 --> 00:15:21.932
Oh, my God, you got messier.
00:15:21.933 --> 00:15:23.299
- I want these.
- Okay, both of them?
00:15:23.300 --> 00:15:24.832
Wait, what... what one is this?
00:15:24.833 --> 00:15:27.665
- I want the... if you can,
the bag and the speaker.
00:15:27.666 --> 00:15:29.265
- Yeah, well,
I\'ll let you guys know.
00:15:29.266 --> 00:15:31.599
- Is this greater than or equal
to one or less than 10?
00:15:31.600 --> 00:15:33.332
Yes, no, maybe?
00:15:33.333 --> 00:15:36.265
- The next part of the creed
says we believe in one Lord,
00:15:36.266 --> 00:15:38.432
Jesus Christ,
the only Son of God,
00:15:38.433 --> 00:15:40.199
eternally begotten
of the Father.
00:15:40.200 --> 00:15:43.532
God from God, light from light,
true God from true God,
00:15:43.533 --> 00:15:46.099
begotten, not made,
one in being with the Father.
00:15:46.100 --> 00:15:47.733
Through Him,
all things are made.
00:15:53.700 --> 00:15:56.199
- So keep your pencil
on the paper, all right?
00:15:56.200 --> 00:15:59.332
So loosen up,
do your shoulders, your arms.
00:15:59.333 --> 00:16:02.532
One, two, three, go.
00:16:02.533 --> 00:16:08.366
[instrumentals]
00:16:10.600 --> 00:16:12.066
Don\'t look down.
00:16:13.600 --> 00:16:16.200
One more minute.
00:16:22.600 --> 00:16:26.099
10 seconds, don\'t look down.
00:16:26.100 --> 00:16:27.933
Keep your eyes on the mirror.
00:16:30.033 --> 00:16:31.665
Okay, stop and share.
00:16:31.666 --> 00:16:35.565
Oh, my goodness
that\'s gorgeous, okay.
00:16:35.566 --> 00:16:40.099
Would you say that these are
an abstraction of you?
00:16:40.100 --> 00:16:41.599
Would you agree?
00:16:41.600 --> 00:16:43.565
Let\'s hope so, okay?
00:16:43.566 --> 00:16:46.833
\'Cause if I saw you come in like
that, I\'d be very, very worried.
00:16:51.066 --> 00:16:54.933
- [singing]
00:16:56.100 --> 00:16:58.199
- Where\'s the food court at?
00:16:58.200 --> 00:17:00.932
- Oh, wait, wait,
wait, wait, wait.
00:17:00.933 --> 00:17:02.932
- Oh, you\'re such a freak.
00:17:02.933 --> 00:17:04.599
- Do you have something
without meat?
00:17:04.600 --> 00:17:06.065
- Hm?
- Do you have something
00:17:06.066 --> 00:17:07.999
no meat, no ham?
- No ham?
00:17:08.000 --> 00:17:09.765
- Just... no?
- No.
00:17:09.766 --> 00:17:11.232
- They you have gimbap.
You know what gimbap is?
00:17:11.233 --> 00:17:13.232
- No.
- It\'s like seaweed...
00:17:13.233 --> 00:17:14.932
Oh, no but they have meat.
00:17:14.933 --> 00:17:16.732
Yeah, I\'m half Korean
so I know a lot of the food.
00:17:16.733 --> 00:17:17.999
- Are you?
Are you really?
00:17:18.000 --> 00:17:19.000
- Yeah, I...
Do I look Korean?
00:17:19.001 --> 00:17:20.265
- No.
- I don\'t?
00:17:20.266 --> 00:17:21.832
I\'m half-Korean yeah.
- Oh.
00:17:21.833 --> 00:17:23.432
- Oh, hey, Dalya,
they have pancakes.
00:17:23.433 --> 00:17:24.665
Do you want to just
00:17:24.666 --> 00:17:25.999
get a pancake, and then...
- No.
00:17:26.000 --> 00:17:29.132
- Dalya, oh, my God,
you\'re so weird.
00:17:29.133 --> 00:17:31.099
- I\'m seriously not
in a good mood.
00:17:31.100 --> 00:17:32.432
- Huh?
00:17:32.433 --> 00:17:33.799
- I\'m seriously not
in a good mood.
00:17:33.800 --> 00:17:35.165
- What?
00:17:35.166 --> 00:17:37.733
- I\'m seriously
not in a good mood!
00:17:40.633 --> 00:17:44.565
Before I left Syria,
things got worse and worse.
00:17:44.566 --> 00:17:47.932
There were bombs and shootings
in front of my house and stuff,
00:17:47.933 --> 00:17:50.832
and it was really scary.
00:17:50.833 --> 00:17:54.499
If the pain has gone,
it\'s not... the pain hasn\'t gone.
00:17:54.500 --> 00:17:57.432
I just learned
how to live with it.
00:17:57.433 --> 00:17:59.466
Look at how long they are.
00:18:02.333 --> 00:18:03.700
Ah.
00:18:12.233 --> 00:18:17.032
- [singing] When the days are
cold and the cards all fold
00:18:17.033 --> 00:18:22.333
And the saints we see
are all made of gold
00:18:23.566 --> 00:18:26.499
- All right, let\'s do...
00:18:26.500 --> 00:18:27.632
- Go!
00:18:27.633 --> 00:18:30.400
[overlapping shouting]
00:18:33.400 --> 00:18:35.400
all: HF go!
CB.
00:18:37.133 --> 00:18:42.232
- I submit all the homework
on the computer
00:18:42.233 --> 00:18:47.665
so I can have time to study.
00:18:47.666 --> 00:18:49.832
- Yeah, that\'s true.
00:18:49.833 --> 00:18:52.565
- The computer class, I have
the final next Saturday.
00:18:52.566 --> 00:18:55.065
I have essay,
00:18:55.066 --> 00:18:57.965
grammar this coming Wednesday.
00:18:57.966 --> 00:19:00.065
Thursday.
00:19:00.066 --> 00:19:01.965
- Yeah, my finals...
- I have two tests on Thursday.
00:19:01.966 --> 00:19:07.432
One at 1:30
and the other one at 3:00.
00:19:07.433 --> 00:19:10.299
- Mama, you know
Winter Formal\'s coming up.
00:19:10.300 --> 00:19:12.899
You\'re not gonna allow me to go
to Winter Formal, right?
00:19:12.900 --> 00:19:14.700
- We\'ll see.
00:19:17.700 --> 00:19:19.132
- What do you mean we\'ll see?
00:19:19.133 --> 00:19:20.433
We\'ll see yes, or we\'ll see no?
00:19:40.200 --> 00:19:43.432
- Mom, Winter Formal, eh?
- Huh?
00:19:43.433 --> 00:19:44.900
- Winter Formal, okay...
00:19:55.400 --> 00:19:57.065
I can\'t just stay
hiding from them.
00:19:57.066 --> 00:19:58.399
Doesn\'t mean I have to be
involved with them.
00:19:58.400 --> 00:19:59.899
I don\'t even have to like...
00:19:59.900 --> 00:20:01.365
- I\'m not telling you
to hide from them.
00:20:01.366 --> 00:20:02.899
Do you see me hiding from mens?
00:20:02.900 --> 00:20:04.700
When I have somebody,
I talk to him.
00:20:06.200 --> 00:20:10.966
But, uh, I don\'t like you to go.
00:20:12.566 --> 00:20:16.266
- [singing]
00:20:25.866 --> 00:20:27.799
- She was 13 when we came here
00:20:27.800 --> 00:20:30.865
on the dangerous age.
00:20:30.866 --> 00:20:37.099
She look around her, and she try
to do things like other girls.
00:20:37.100 --> 00:20:39.965
She can go to her
friend\'s birthday,
00:20:39.966 --> 00:20:44.865
but not in a...
00:20:44.866 --> 00:20:49.232
like boys and girls birthday.
00:20:49.233 --> 00:20:50.632
It\'s not common with us.
00:20:50.633 --> 00:20:53.065
It\'s not in our culture.
00:20:53.066 --> 00:20:56.866
[chanting in Arabic]
00:20:59.433 --> 00:21:04.199
Some strict rules on her.
00:21:04.200 --> 00:21:06.332
It\'ll be helpful in a nice way
00:21:06.333 --> 00:21:09.199
that we\'re not used to do this,
00:21:09.200 --> 00:21:10.366
please don\'t do it.
00:21:11.966 --> 00:21:14.600
- Turn right, switch.
00:21:19.266 --> 00:21:21.699
- Hands up!
[continues indistinctly]
00:21:21.700 --> 00:21:23.632
On defense,
when they\'re inside the paint,
00:21:23.633 --> 00:21:25.633
you want to put your hands up.
00:21:28.866 --> 00:21:32.499
- I teach my daughter
the right way of Islam.
00:21:32.500 --> 00:21:39.499
That she\'s not supposed
to hate, kill,
00:21:39.500 --> 00:21:42.433
talk about anybody,
do bad stuff...
00:21:45.533 --> 00:21:48.766
And do what God ask her to.
00:21:52.033 --> 00:21:56.965
We always teach them the right
way and let them choose.
00:21:56.966 --> 00:21:59.900
[instrumental music]
00:22:26.200 --> 00:22:27.733
- Okay.
00:22:39.166 --> 00:22:40.233
- Okay.
00:22:43.866 --> 00:22:45.566
- [mumbles]
00:22:52.500 --> 00:22:55.766
[speaking Arabic]
00:23:03.500 --> 00:23:06.099
- My mom finally said yes
to going to Winter Formal.
00:23:06.100 --> 00:23:08.165
[humming]
00:23:08.166 --> 00:23:09.432
I\'m so excited.
00:23:09.433 --> 00:23:13.300
[softly singing]
00:23:16.266 --> 00:23:20.732
There\'s gonna be boys there,
00:23:20.733 --> 00:23:24.932
but I don\'t really care
\'cause I don\'t know them at all.
00:23:24.933 --> 00:23:27.932
It\'s not all about dates
and stuff.
00:23:27.933 --> 00:23:30.633
It can be with...
About friends and fun.
00:23:33.266 --> 00:23:34.799
- Dalya?
- Yeah?
00:23:34.800 --> 00:23:36.833
- [speaking Arabic]
- I\'m coming down.
00:23:38.500 --> 00:23:40.665
- Whoo.
- [speaking Arabic]
00:23:40.666 --> 00:23:43.333
[speaking Arabic]
00:23:49.433 --> 00:23:50.833
- Thank you, Mummy.
00:23:52.300 --> 00:23:54.899
Oh, everyone\'s ready for formal.
00:23:54.900 --> 00:23:58.299
Oh, she looks different.
[murmurs]
00:23:58.300 --> 00:24:00.965
- You\'re gonna see them all in
a second... you know that, right?
00:24:00.966 --> 00:24:02.399
You gonna be okay?
00:24:02.400 --> 00:24:05.066
- Whoo, party, whoo!
00:24:06.566 --> 00:24:08.365
- Bye.
- Dalya, I\'ll see you
00:24:08.366 --> 00:24:09.532
in a second, bye.
00:24:09.533 --> 00:24:10.533
Bye.
00:24:19.666 --> 00:24:21.565
Yeah, I am.
00:24:21.566 --> 00:24:26.566
[pop music playing]
00:25:04.033 --> 00:25:05.033
- Mm-hmm.
00:26:03.966 --> 00:26:05.965
- Now let\'s look
at some applications
00:26:05.966 --> 00:26:07.799
involving fractions.
00:26:07.800 --> 00:26:11.099
First we\'ll look at
the key words and phrases
00:26:11.100 --> 00:26:12.765
you are used to
00:26:12.766 --> 00:26:15.165
that mean different operations
00:26:15.166 --> 00:26:18.165
and also for equality.
00:26:18.166 --> 00:26:21.766
These key words
and phrases mean addition.
00:26:24.100 --> 00:26:26.832
- I used to live in America
for 10 years.
00:26:26.833 --> 00:26:28.633
That was 20 years ago.
00:26:30.800 --> 00:26:35.165
I\'m not a refugee.
I\'m an American citizen.
00:26:35.166 --> 00:26:38.199
It\'s a big difference
between the life here
00:26:38.200 --> 00:26:39.699
and the life in Syria
00:26:39.700 --> 00:26:43.765
and the life now and life
from 20 years ago.
00:26:43.766 --> 00:26:46.532
It\'s like business life,
00:26:46.533 --> 00:26:49.532
always business,
no time for yourself.
00:26:49.533 --> 00:26:54.832
- Nine... It goes one
time and a remainder of one.
00:26:54.833 --> 00:26:56.332
So the outer...
00:26:56.333 --> 00:26:59.632
- Hassan, he was the only man
in my life.
00:26:59.633 --> 00:27:01.499
I loved him.
00:27:01.500 --> 00:27:03.500
I mean, all my life
was my family.
00:27:07.433 --> 00:27:10.332
When he took a second wife,
00:27:10.333 --> 00:27:12.099
I didn\'t talk to him actually,
00:27:12.100 --> 00:27:14.099
like, for a long time,
00:27:14.100 --> 00:27:16.265
for a year.
00:27:16.266 --> 00:27:22.200
[instrumental music]
00:27:24.700 --> 00:27:28.165
- I\'m not sure if Dad\'s gonna be
so thrilled
00:27:28.166 --> 00:27:30.399
about all your makeup.
00:27:30.400 --> 00:27:32.165
- I\'m not five anymore.
00:27:32.166 --> 00:27:33.900
- He\'s Vibering me.
00:27:35.866 --> 00:27:37.499
\"Just getting out
of the plane.\"
00:27:37.500 --> 00:27:39.665
Oh, okay, good.
00:27:39.666 --> 00:27:41.199
Wow, comma...
00:27:41.200 --> 00:27:42.932
you\'re really early.
00:27:42.933 --> 00:27:45.599
Period.
00:27:45.600 --> 00:27:47.065
We\'re on our way.
00:27:47.066 --> 00:27:48.600
[phone dings]
00:27:52.166 --> 00:27:55.832
- How do you think things are
gonna change now with dad here?
00:27:55.833 --> 00:27:58.166
- I\'m happy because
he\'s coming, but...
00:28:00.833 --> 00:28:02.499
I\'m scared.
00:28:02.500 --> 00:28:04.766
- Yeah?
- Yeah.
00:28:09.666 --> 00:28:13.332
Like, I think he\'s gonna be,
00:28:13.333 --> 00:28:17.832
like, really on me
about being a lady.
00:28:17.833 --> 00:28:19.965
I feel like he\'s gonna be,
like, every single thing,
00:28:19.966 --> 00:28:21.465
like, the way I walk,
00:28:21.466 --> 00:28:24.432
and though I walk normal
he\'s gonna be like
00:28:24.433 --> 00:28:26.232
\"Walk like a girl,\"
I don\'t know.
00:28:26.233 --> 00:28:27.832
- I don\'t know, I think
in some ways
00:28:27.833 --> 00:28:30.765
he wants you to be the wife
that he wished he had.
00:28:30.766 --> 00:28:32.499
- Whoa.
00:28:32.500 --> 00:28:36.465
- Well, to him he wants you
to be in a successful marriage.
00:28:36.466 --> 00:28:39.965
And to him a successful marriage
means certain things...
00:28:39.966 --> 00:28:41.632
- That\'s weird.
- And these certain things
00:28:41.633 --> 00:28:46.733
are you have to be
in very traditional...
00:28:49.633 --> 00:28:51.132
Feminine roles.
00:28:51.133 --> 00:28:52.565
- If I was, like, what?
00:28:52.566 --> 00:28:54.732
Barbie, Cinderella, a princess,
00:28:54.733 --> 00:28:56.665
then I\'ll have
a successful marriage?
00:28:56.666 --> 00:28:58.999
- Maybe he thinks that,
if he had wives like that,
00:28:59.000 --> 00:29:01.465
that he would have had
a successful marriage.
00:29:01.466 --> 00:29:05.699
- Why does the outside matter
so much as long as I work hard
00:29:05.700 --> 00:29:08.332
and my personality\'s good,
00:29:08.333 --> 00:29:09.832
my religion is good?
00:29:09.833 --> 00:29:11.665
I think that\'s enough.
00:29:11.666 --> 00:29:14.299
Everything\'s gonna be like
your future husband
00:29:14.300 --> 00:29:16.565
and about your future husband.
00:29:16.566 --> 00:29:18.165
Your future husband
won\'t like that.
00:29:18.166 --> 00:29:20.533
Um, well, too bad for him.
00:29:22.133 --> 00:29:24.666
- Yeah, I agree with you.
I agree with you 100%.
00:29:37.133 --> 00:29:38.999
- I see him.
I see him.
00:29:39.000 --> 00:29:40.499
I don\'t wanna go.
I don\'t wanna go.
00:29:40.500 --> 00:29:41.699
I don\'t wanna go.
I don\'t wanna go.
00:29:41.700 --> 00:29:43.233
I don\'t wanna go.
00:29:44.866 --> 00:29:47.032
Dad.
00:29:47.033 --> 00:29:49.165
Is that him?
00:29:49.166 --> 00:29:50.900
Dad.
00:29:59.233 --> 00:30:02.166
[instrumental music]
00:30:28.233 --> 00:30:30.500
[exclaims]
00:30:44.166 --> 00:30:45.400
You made it.
00:31:04.866 --> 00:31:08.100
- [praying in Arabic]
00:31:17.733 --> 00:31:19.399
- It is very hard for me
00:31:19.400 --> 00:31:22.932
to have my children
live in the United States.
00:31:22.933 --> 00:31:25.865
We decided to send Dalya
to a Catholic,
00:31:25.866 --> 00:31:28.199
all-girls\' high school.
00:31:28.200 --> 00:31:31.265
I was really concerned
about her hijab.
00:31:31.266 --> 00:31:32.965
She had different thoughts
00:31:32.966 --> 00:31:35.899
whether to keep it
or to remove it.
00:31:35.900 --> 00:31:39.599
[praying in Arabic]
00:31:39.600 --> 00:31:42.733
It would have been
devastating for me...
00:31:45.700 --> 00:31:48.133
Had she taken it off.
00:31:50.966 --> 00:31:54.133
[praying in Arabic]
00:31:56.533 --> 00:32:00.965
My marriage with Rudayna
is under negotiations now.
00:32:00.966 --> 00:32:06.200
We\'re discussing the possibility
of getting back together.
00:32:07.766 --> 00:32:10.299
I divorced the second wife.
00:32:10.300 --> 00:32:11.466
[phone ringing]
00:32:13.133 --> 00:32:15.132
- Hello?
00:32:15.133 --> 00:32:16.199
Hi, Saf.
00:32:16.200 --> 00:32:18.032
- Rudayna and Dalya would live
00:32:18.033 --> 00:32:23.432
with me wherever
I find is more appropriate.
00:32:23.433 --> 00:32:26.366
[instrumental music]
00:32:33.433 --> 00:32:36.499
- When Hassan divorced
the other lady
00:32:36.500 --> 00:32:40.099
he was talking to me
all the time on the phone,
00:32:40.100 --> 00:32:41.999
trying with me
to go back together
00:32:42.000 --> 00:32:46.900
and forget, like, the past.
00:32:49.333 --> 00:32:52.532
Not feeling about love, no.
00:32:52.533 --> 00:32:54.765
Love, it doesn\'t...
00:32:54.766 --> 00:33:00.266
It\'s not in my life anymore.
00:33:01.533 --> 00:33:04.365
It\'s like just to live
00:33:04.366 --> 00:33:06.499
with my kids,
00:33:06.500 --> 00:33:08.066
and my family.
00:33:09.700 --> 00:33:15.633
[instrumental music]
00:33:28.566 --> 00:33:30.665
- Poppy!
- Eh?
00:33:30.666 --> 00:33:32.699
[speaking Arabic]
00:33:32.700 --> 00:33:34.032
- You know that
fits my phone, right?
00:33:34.033 --> 00:33:36.365
- You have a screen protector?
- Yes.
00:33:36.366 --> 00:33:37.665
- How much is it?
00:33:37.666 --> 00:33:39.500
[speaking Arabic]
00:33:43.866 --> 00:33:46.099
- Yeah, how much is it?
00:33:46.100 --> 00:33:49.166
It\'s gonna be the same
here as Forever 21.
00:33:50.500 --> 00:33:52.065
- It takes haggling.
00:33:52.066 --> 00:33:57.232
I really feel
I\'m totally out of my league.
00:33:57.233 --> 00:34:00.299
I belong to more
Middle Eastern countries,
00:34:00.300 --> 00:34:02.732
more Muslim countries.
00:34:02.733 --> 00:34:05.065
Los Angeles is a big city.
00:34:05.066 --> 00:34:07.299
It\'s too busy, too much rush.
00:34:07.300 --> 00:34:09.965
People are not free to visit
with other people.
00:34:09.966 --> 00:34:13.433
They\'re not even free
to talk to you.
00:34:15.133 --> 00:34:16.632
- No.
00:34:16.633 --> 00:34:18.999
- Even talking to my two boys,
00:34:19.000 --> 00:34:22.965
there\'s always a difference
between dad and son,
00:34:22.966 --> 00:34:27.232
but it really has widened up.
00:34:27.233 --> 00:34:31.065
I have to consider what I have
to say a few times
00:34:31.066 --> 00:34:34.099
before I say it because I don\'t
want to upset them.
00:34:34.100 --> 00:34:39.466
Many times I just abstain
just to avoid any arguments.
00:34:40.466 --> 00:34:41.765
- Where do I take a picture?
00:34:41.766 --> 00:34:44.399
- This lady is
a converted Muslim.
00:34:44.400 --> 00:34:47.799
[speaking Arabic]
00:34:47.800 --> 00:34:50.899
- She came from El Salvador...
- Wow.
00:34:50.900 --> 00:34:53.065
- And her husband is Muslim,
and she converted Muslim.
00:34:53.066 --> 00:34:54.665
- Congratulations.
- Thank you.
00:34:54.666 --> 00:34:58.099
- Dalya is the one that I have
the closest relationship
00:34:58.100 --> 00:35:00.965
with and we\'re still very,
very close.
00:35:00.966 --> 00:35:03.733
She confide in me.
00:35:07.000 --> 00:35:08.632
- I feel so young, Dad.
00:35:08.633 --> 00:35:10.532
Like, people ask me
\"How old are you?\"
00:35:10.533 --> 00:35:12.632
Now I would just be like
I\'m in 10th grade.
00:35:12.633 --> 00:35:15.132
I would rather say
I\'m in 10th grade than 9th.
00:35:15.133 --> 00:35:16.899
I feel older when I say
I\'m in 10th grade
00:35:16.900 --> 00:35:19.665
but then when I say
I\'m, like, 15,
00:35:19.666 --> 00:35:21.332
it\'s just like I\'m so young.
00:35:21.333 --> 00:35:23.499
Like, I\'m a kid.
I\'m a child.
00:35:23.500 --> 00:35:28.532
- Just enjoy your life,
enjoy the moments
00:35:28.533 --> 00:35:31.165
because many times
we\'ve had good times,
00:35:31.166 --> 00:35:37.032
we thought the good times
would last for a long time.
00:35:37.033 --> 00:35:39.065
They did not.
00:35:39.066 --> 00:35:40.999
Alhamdulillah,
we\'re good health.
00:35:41.000 --> 00:35:42.233
- Alhamdulillah.
00:35:43.466 --> 00:35:45.032
- You never know.
00:35:45.033 --> 00:35:46.332
- Dad, if you wanted to die
00:35:46.333 --> 00:35:48.865
where would you
like to be buried?
00:35:48.866 --> 00:35:50.165
- Wherever I die.
00:35:50.166 --> 00:35:51.865
- Wherever you die?
- Yeah.
00:35:51.866 --> 00:35:54.065
- Even if you died
in the U.S. you wouldn\'t want us
00:35:54.066 --> 00:35:56.065
to take you, like, to Mersin?
00:35:56.066 --> 00:35:57.799
- No.
- Why?
00:35:57.800 --> 00:36:01.399
- When you are dead,
your soul gets out
00:36:01.400 --> 00:36:06.732
and the... your body
is just a matter of time.
00:36:06.733 --> 00:36:09.099
A few years it will deteriorate
00:36:09.100 --> 00:36:12.032
and there\'ll
be nothing left but bones.
00:36:12.033 --> 00:36:17.865
But your soul is gone and,
you know, it\'ll be
00:36:17.866 --> 00:36:23.699
in a holding place
waiting for judgment day.
00:36:23.700 --> 00:36:26.932
- Oh, my God, that is so scary.
00:36:26.933 --> 00:36:32.699
- No, well, if you do a good
deed, it will not be scary.
00:36:32.700 --> 00:36:35.099
You\'ll live a great life.
00:36:35.100 --> 00:36:37.765
You\'ll be in a very nice place.
00:36:37.766 --> 00:36:43.566
Otherwise you\'ll be in a place
with snakes and rats.
00:36:46.066 --> 00:36:48.200
Well, just be a good girl.
00:36:49.866 --> 00:36:51.433
- Okay.
00:36:59.533 --> 00:37:05.832
Both of my parents said
that it would be better for me
00:37:05.833 --> 00:37:07.199
for them to get back together,
00:37:07.200 --> 00:37:08.965
but I don\'t see it.
00:37:08.966 --> 00:37:12.832
And I honestly don\'t think
it\'s a good choice
00:37:12.833 --> 00:37:16.465
because they always
had problems with each other.
00:37:16.466 --> 00:37:17.965
It\'s a lot of pressure on them
00:37:17.966 --> 00:37:21.132
and on us too.
00:37:21.133 --> 00:37:26.066
[instrumental music]
00:37:43.833 --> 00:37:48.665
- Like any young person,
I did enough mischiefs
00:37:48.666 --> 00:37:51.932
and I\'ve always felt guilty
00:37:51.933 --> 00:37:56.665
after each time
I committed a sin.
00:37:56.666 --> 00:38:00.432
In my case, my wife knew
I was dating other women,
00:38:00.433 --> 00:38:04.032
and she didn\'t accept it,
00:38:04.033 --> 00:38:06.333
but she figured, you know,
it\'s a fling.
00:38:07.933 --> 00:38:14.165
As I got older I felt
that I really should stop this,
00:38:14.166 --> 00:38:15.599
and my desire
00:38:15.600 --> 00:38:19.032
to have more
than one woman led me
00:38:19.033 --> 00:38:21.765
to go to practice my religion
00:38:21.766 --> 00:38:23.446
where we\'re allowed
to have multiple wives.
00:38:26.266 --> 00:38:28.999
If my wife doesn\'t like the idea
00:38:29.000 --> 00:38:32.565
she may request a divorce,
00:38:32.566 --> 00:38:35.999
but there\'s nothing
in this world
00:38:36.000 --> 00:38:40.899
will make me commit a sin
for another human being.
00:38:40.900 --> 00:38:46.400
I want to please my creator,
not his creations.
00:38:51.433 --> 00:38:55.899
I have gotten accustomed
to living in the Middle East.
00:38:55.900 --> 00:38:57.432
It\'s really difficult.
00:38:57.433 --> 00:39:00.932
I don\'t seem to accept anything,
00:39:00.933 --> 00:39:07.265
or get accustomed
or get acquainted
00:39:07.266 --> 00:39:09.332
whatever you want to call it.
00:39:09.333 --> 00:39:11.499
But it\'s been really difficult.
00:39:11.500 --> 00:39:17.632
So I\'m still trying to...
00:39:17.633 --> 00:39:20.832
assess the whole situation.
00:39:20.833 --> 00:39:23.432
But so far it\'s not favorable,
you know,
00:39:23.433 --> 00:39:29.965
I would rather live
under the bombing
00:39:29.966 --> 00:39:33.832
and suffer like my people
are suffering in Syria
00:39:33.833 --> 00:39:36.999
than to be in here,
00:39:37.000 --> 00:39:39.065
enjoying the beach,
00:39:39.066 --> 00:39:42.565
enjoying the freedom,
enjoying the good life.
00:39:42.566 --> 00:39:45.799
[instrumental music]
00:39:45.800 --> 00:39:49.133
- [singing in Arabic]
00:40:02.266 --> 00:40:04.633
[congregation responds]
00:40:06.600 --> 00:40:08.632
- And then, please remember
Ramadan...
00:40:08.633 --> 00:40:11.066
[continues indistinctly]
00:40:40.900 --> 00:40:44.332
- I am unable to increase your
line of credit at this time.
00:40:44.333 --> 00:40:47.232
A letter explaining the decision
will arrive within five
00:40:47.233 --> 00:40:49.999
to seven business days
at the address on file.
00:40:50.000 --> 00:40:51.599
- All right, all right.
- I\'m sorry that
00:40:51.600 --> 00:40:52.932
we\'re not able to increase
00:40:52.933 --> 00:40:54.700
that line of credit.
- No problem.
00:41:03.333 --> 00:41:07.899
- It\'s his belief that
it\'s okay for him
00:41:07.900 --> 00:41:10.199
to have two or three wives
00:41:10.200 --> 00:41:12.132
like religion said,
00:41:12.133 --> 00:41:13.732
but religion didn\'t say this.
00:41:13.733 --> 00:41:16.232
Religion said, if you want
to get the second wife,
00:41:16.233 --> 00:41:18.165
you have to ask the first one.
00:41:18.166 --> 00:41:20.633
And she has to say yes.
00:41:28.666 --> 00:41:30.200
[speaking Arabic]
00:41:31.466 --> 00:41:35.333
God say you have to be fair.
00:41:36.566 --> 00:41:41.500
[upbeat music]
00:42:03.700 --> 00:42:05.299
- He said he\'s never, ever,
00:42:05.300 --> 00:42:09.566
ever inshallah come
to the U.S. again.
00:42:15.233 --> 00:42:17.799
Obviously I\'m not gonna
never see him ever again,
00:42:17.800 --> 00:42:19.232
but he\'s never gonna come here
00:42:19.233 --> 00:42:21.065
so I\'m gonna have to go
and see him,
00:42:21.066 --> 00:42:23.066
and I have school here
so it\'s complicated.
00:42:27.600 --> 00:42:33.533
[instrumental music]
00:42:51.866 --> 00:42:54.200
One, two, three.
00:43:00.433 --> 00:43:03.199
- I don\'t... I kind of, like,
don\'t want to be here anymore.
00:43:03.200 --> 00:43:05.099
I mean, I try my best
to adapt here
00:43:05.100 --> 00:43:08.165
and, like, I\'m good at it
and I go out with my friends,
00:43:08.166 --> 00:43:12.332
and I have fun,
and... but inside of me,
00:43:12.333 --> 00:43:14.132
deep inside of me,
00:43:14.133 --> 00:43:15.999
I don\'t like it here.
00:43:16.000 --> 00:43:18.299
You\'re so tall.
00:43:18.300 --> 00:43:20.865
And then every time
that my dad would visit,
00:43:20.866 --> 00:43:23.165
there was something
about him coming back
00:43:23.166 --> 00:43:24.832
and he just, like,
hated it here.
00:43:24.833 --> 00:43:27.265
He wanted to live here
and, like,
00:43:27.266 --> 00:43:29.365
work here, but then
it\'s not working out
00:43:29.366 --> 00:43:32.165
because he does not
like it here at all.
00:43:32.166 --> 00:43:36.466
He doesn\'t feel
his religion here.
00:43:38.266 --> 00:43:40.465
At first I was like \"No,
I want to live here.
00:43:40.466 --> 00:43:41.799
\"I have a good future here.
00:43:41.800 --> 00:43:43.599
\"I want to go to a good college.
00:43:43.600 --> 00:43:45.632
I want to just
finish high school.\"
00:43:45.633 --> 00:43:48.699
But then, like, now I feel him.
00:43:48.700 --> 00:43:51.633
[instrumental music]
00:44:04.900 --> 00:44:09.066
- He decide to go back over
to Turkey, and, uh...
00:44:10.900 --> 00:44:13.832
It was like...
difficult on me
00:44:13.833 --> 00:44:18.899
because he gave me
a hope which I think
00:44:18.900 --> 00:44:21.999
he\'s supposed to think about it
before he talk to me.
00:44:22.000 --> 00:44:25.565
But, like, you feel
when you\'re... especially
00:44:25.566 --> 00:44:29.865
when you\'re divorced or
when you\'re single woman,
00:44:29.866 --> 00:44:32.932
in our country it\'s still,
00:44:32.933 --> 00:44:34.865
like, it means something.
00:44:34.866 --> 00:44:37.432
Like... even if they...
00:44:37.433 --> 00:44:39.699
All the people
they say, \"Oh, it\'s okay,
00:44:39.700 --> 00:44:41.665
it\'s better for you.\"
00:44:41.666 --> 00:44:44.865
But no, they\'re lying.
They\'re lying.
00:44:44.866 --> 00:44:51.865
Everybody... think
that divorce is not...
00:44:51.866 --> 00:44:54.000
It\'s not the right way.
00:44:56.266 --> 00:45:00.265
There is no social life.
00:45:00.266 --> 00:45:01.999
I was trying to do women\'s group
00:45:02.000 --> 00:45:04.465
for a long time,
and each one has...
00:45:04.466 --> 00:45:07.599
I always ask them
and each one has an excuse.
00:45:07.600 --> 00:45:10.300
Always they have an excuse.
00:45:12.333 --> 00:45:16.265
I didn\'t have... I was
doing groups in Syria,
00:45:16.266 --> 00:45:17.899
and I had so many friends.
00:45:17.900 --> 00:45:20.599
Nobody... It didn\'t
happen to me like here.
00:45:20.600 --> 00:45:24.265
Here each one says
\"Oh, I can\'t, my kids.
00:45:24.266 --> 00:45:26.332
Oh, my husband,
he doesn\'t allow me.\"
00:45:26.333 --> 00:45:29.499
Okay, what are we doing?
00:45:29.500 --> 00:45:32.932
I don\'t know, I don\'t feel good
about this life.
00:45:32.933 --> 00:45:35.333
I don\'t like it.
00:45:38.733 --> 00:45:43.666
[instrumental music]
00:46:05.733 --> 00:46:08.132
- Good morning, everybody.
My name is Edina Lekovic.
00:46:08.133 --> 00:46:10.199
You\'re free to just
call me Edina.
00:46:10.200 --> 00:46:12.465
So I was invited
to come in today
00:46:12.466 --> 00:46:14.365
and talk about my faith,
00:46:14.366 --> 00:46:16.065
which is the Muslim faith.
00:46:16.066 --> 00:46:17.399
I grew up in San Diego
00:46:17.400 --> 00:46:19.465
of the average
American girl experience
00:46:19.466 --> 00:46:21.332
except that my parents
were immigrants.
00:46:21.333 --> 00:46:23.032
I\'m from Eastern Europe.
00:46:23.033 --> 00:46:25.399
My family\'s been Muslim
for generations
00:46:25.400 --> 00:46:28.232
and I looked like any other
white girl at my school,
00:46:28.233 --> 00:46:32.332
but I was dealing with my
identity issues all throughout
00:46:32.333 --> 00:46:36.732
because for me being Muslim
was a very confusing thing
00:46:36.733 --> 00:46:39.465
because I didn\'t really know
anything about Islam growing up.
00:46:39.466 --> 00:46:42.399
However, it was meeting
Muslim students at UCLA,
00:46:42.400 --> 00:46:45.132
meeting young people
who were choosing to be Muslim,
00:46:45.133 --> 00:46:46.532
and that\'s when I actually
decided to read
00:46:46.533 --> 00:46:48.532
the Quran for myself
for the first time.
00:46:48.533 --> 00:46:50.399
And the Quran is the Muslim
holy text.
00:46:50.400 --> 00:46:54.799
Ready?
One, two, three.
00:46:54.800 --> 00:46:56.032
Very good.
Thank you.
00:46:56.033 --> 00:46:58.465
- Being, like, a Muslim
and then, like,
00:46:58.466 --> 00:47:00.199
hearing this and,
like, I really related
00:47:00.200 --> 00:47:02.765
to you and, like, the way, like,
you looked at Islam.
00:47:02.766 --> 00:47:04.132
\'Cause the way my family
looks at Islam
00:47:04.133 --> 00:47:06.532
is different than, like,
how other people,
00:47:06.533 --> 00:47:08.399
and I thought I was,
like... am I being rebellious
00:47:08.400 --> 00:47:10.965
if I thought this?
But then it\'s not in Islam,
00:47:10.966 --> 00:47:13.432
but I, like,
for example gay rights.
00:47:13.433 --> 00:47:17.065
I support gays, but that\'s
not what Islam is like.
00:47:17.066 --> 00:47:19.199
Different ideas,
but when I saw, like,
00:47:19.200 --> 00:47:21.065
you explaining
where you came from and, like,
00:47:21.066 --> 00:47:22.732
you explaining
your everyday life
00:47:22.733 --> 00:47:25.032
and when you went to college.
00:47:25.033 --> 00:47:27.965
I really, like, I was like
\"this feels like...\"
00:47:27.966 --> 00:47:29.800
- Okay, good.
- It was really good.
00:47:32.466 --> 00:47:34.565
- Republican presidential
front-runner Donald Trump
00:47:34.566 --> 00:47:38.099
is facing heavy criticism
after calling for a \"total
00:47:38.100 --> 00:47:41.699
and complete ban on Muslims
entering the United States.\"
00:47:41.700 --> 00:47:43.465
- \'Cause we have
a problem in this country.
00:47:43.466 --> 00:47:45.799
You look at Paris,
you look at the carnage
00:47:45.800 --> 00:47:47.032
that took place in Paris,
00:47:47.033 --> 00:47:48.965
but look at Paris beyond that.
00:47:48.966 --> 00:47:51.965
Paris is no longer
the beautiful, gorgeous city
00:47:51.966 --> 00:47:55.699
with all... Paris has a
tremendous lot of problems.
00:47:55.700 --> 00:47:58.232
- He... he puts all the blame
on Arab.
00:47:58.233 --> 00:47:59.865
- Like the other day
we had the California...
00:47:59.866 --> 00:48:02.332
- Like on Muslim, not Arab.
00:48:02.333 --> 00:48:03.966
Like Muslim people.
00:48:39.433 --> 00:48:41.765
It\'s that one person
did something wrong,
00:48:41.766 --> 00:48:44.665
it doesn\'t mean that
all Christian people are bad.
00:48:44.666 --> 00:48:46.665
Don\'t worry about him.
He said this...
00:48:46.666 --> 00:48:47.832
- A lot of people
support him, Mom.
00:48:47.833 --> 00:48:50.266
- Well, just the sick people.
00:48:52.000 --> 00:48:55.266
It doesn\'t mean... his word
doesn\'t mean anything.
00:48:59.766 --> 00:49:01.900
- Mom.
- [speaking Arabic]
00:49:10.033 --> 00:49:12.500
- What does the hat have
to do with anything?
00:49:37.600 --> 00:49:40.366
- Okay, no, no, no,
it\'s one of them, like...
00:49:59.700 --> 00:50:01.065
- I don\'t know.
I disagree with you,
00:50:01.066 --> 00:50:03.100
but you\'ll do whatever you want.
00:50:09.166 --> 00:50:13.032
- Some of my friends
got into problems.
00:50:13.033 --> 00:50:19.065
Bad people stop them
and hit the lady.
00:50:19.066 --> 00:50:23.200
Two people, like,
hit the lady and pull her hijab.
00:50:26.533 --> 00:50:30.000
I don\'t like these bad looks.
00:50:36.266 --> 00:50:37.899
- Remember to breathe.
00:50:37.900 --> 00:50:39.366
How should you be breathing?
00:50:41.866 --> 00:50:43.099
In through your nose,
out through your mouth,
00:50:43.100 --> 00:50:44.665
again, let\'s go.
00:50:44.666 --> 00:50:47.666
[background chatter]
00:50:57.000 --> 00:51:00.900
- I actually love being
the only Muslim at my school.
00:51:02.466 --> 00:51:05.265
I currently
do not wear the hijab
00:51:05.266 --> 00:51:08.565
because I want to cover myself,
00:51:08.566 --> 00:51:12.233
or protect myself from men,
men\'s eyes.
00:51:13.800 --> 00:51:17.832
What made me love my hijab
is my life experiences.
00:51:17.833 --> 00:51:21.632
It was a constant reminder
for me of who I am,
00:51:21.633 --> 00:51:22.832
where I\'m from.
00:51:22.833 --> 00:51:25.165
Come on!
00:51:25.166 --> 00:51:28.832
It was a constant reminder
to me that you don\'t need
00:51:28.833 --> 00:51:31.632
to let your hair down
or show your skin
00:51:31.633 --> 00:51:33.632
to be able to be beautiful.
00:51:33.633 --> 00:51:38.565
All: Three, four, five, six,
seven, eight, nine, ten.
00:51:38.566 --> 00:51:40.165
- There you go, what else?
00:51:40.166 --> 00:51:41.832
- Donald Trump says stuff
00:51:41.833 --> 00:51:44.132
about every single nationality,
00:51:44.133 --> 00:51:46.899
like, he doesn\'t like Muslims,
he doesn\'t like Mexicans,
00:51:46.900 --> 00:51:50.832
he doesn\'t like...
Who does he like?
00:51:50.833 --> 00:51:52.565
If he\'s gonna kick us out, well,
00:51:52.566 --> 00:51:54.632
he\'s gonna kick all of us out.
00:51:54.633 --> 00:51:56.299
We\'re talking to my friends,
and I\'m like,
00:51:56.300 --> 00:51:58.432
\"What if he kicks me out?
Where am I gonna go?
00:51:58.433 --> 00:52:00.532
I have no country
to go back to.\"
00:52:00.533 --> 00:52:02.832
They\'re like \"It\'s okay, Dalya,
we\'ll all go back to Mexico,
00:52:02.833 --> 00:52:04.465
we\'ll take you with us.\"
00:52:04.466 --> 00:52:08.465
[girls giggling]
00:52:08.466 --> 00:52:10.632
- Bye, guys.
- Bye, see you tomorrow.
00:52:10.633 --> 00:52:12.033
- See you tomorrow.
00:52:22.533 --> 00:52:23.900
- I guess where
do we go from here?
00:52:25.566 --> 00:52:28.299
What do you think the next step
should be
00:52:28.300 --> 00:52:29.799
with where everything is?
00:52:29.800 --> 00:52:31.632
- I talked to my counselor...
- Uh-huh.
00:52:31.633 --> 00:52:34.732
- And he wrote me,
00:52:34.733 --> 00:52:39.665
which was kind of helpful,
the intro should be like,
00:52:39.666 --> 00:52:42.332
\"I come from
two different worlds,\"
00:52:42.333 --> 00:52:45.299
and the body two
to three paragraphs
00:52:45.300 --> 00:52:49.665
\"how coming here changed me
and my opportunities.\"
00:52:49.666 --> 00:52:51.365
- Mm-hmm, right.
- And how, like,
00:52:51.366 --> 00:52:55.199
when I came here
I just wanted to do everything.
00:52:55.200 --> 00:52:56.732
Applying to colleges was one of
00:52:56.733 --> 00:53:00.299
the most stressful times
of my life.
00:53:00.300 --> 00:53:03.765
I broke down into tears,
like, twice.
00:53:03.766 --> 00:53:06.199
It was so stressful,
and it was a time
00:53:06.200 --> 00:53:08.799
when I just wished
00:53:08.800 --> 00:53:12.132
that I have
lived here my whole life
00:53:12.133 --> 00:53:16.465
because of the English,
getting used to life here,
00:53:16.466 --> 00:53:19.099
maybe my grades
would have been better.
00:53:19.100 --> 00:53:20.599
- I think that\'s where
the strength of this essay
00:53:20.600 --> 00:53:22.265
will come,
00:53:22.266 --> 00:53:26.032
why where you come from is not
only not a hindrance,
00:53:26.033 --> 00:53:29.699
but a strength in what you want
to do in your future.
00:53:29.700 --> 00:53:32.132
- If I still lived in Syria
00:53:32.133 --> 00:53:33.965
I would\'ve been a completely
different person.
00:53:33.966 --> 00:53:36.399
If I was born and raised here
00:53:36.400 --> 00:53:38.732
I would\'ve been
a completely different person.
00:53:38.733 --> 00:53:43.132
I just want to experience
more and do
00:53:43.133 --> 00:53:45.265
just great things in this world
00:53:45.266 --> 00:53:49.132
and, like, be an architect.
00:53:49.133 --> 00:53:50.932
And I want to, like,
study abroad for,
00:53:50.933 --> 00:53:54.565
like, a year in Spain,
00:53:54.566 --> 00:53:56.199
or another one in Turkey
00:53:56.200 --> 00:53:59.632
or just study the different
types of architecture
00:53:59.633 --> 00:54:01.299
and especially those ones
00:54:01.300 --> 00:54:03.599
because those ones are,
like, the most that interest me.
00:54:03.600 --> 00:54:05.832
Like, their mosques are, like,
beautiful and stuff.
00:54:05.833 --> 00:54:08.365
And also another...
00:54:08.366 --> 00:54:12.165
[bell ringing]
00:54:12.166 --> 00:54:14.333
[overlapping chatter]
00:54:17.000 --> 00:54:18.599
- You\'re dancing
to this song now?
00:54:18.600 --> 00:54:21.532
Or is Dalya?
Are you dancing like this?
00:54:21.533 --> 00:54:24.999
- Hello, and welcome
to Gael\'s Got Talent.
00:54:25.000 --> 00:54:27.465
[cheers and applause]
00:54:27.466 --> 00:54:28.499
Right here.
00:54:28.500 --> 00:54:30.665
- Welcome Jennifer and Dalya.
00:54:30.666 --> 00:54:33.465
[cheers and applause]
00:54:33.466 --> 00:54:39.400
[upbeat music]
00:54:43.466 --> 00:54:47.133
[cheers and applause]
00:54:54.200 --> 00:54:57.466
[cheers and applause]
00:55:04.600 --> 00:55:08.499
[cheers and applause]
00:55:08.500 --> 00:55:10.765
[upbeat music]
00:55:10.766 --> 00:55:12.332
- All right, you guys,
you get tickets
00:55:12.333 --> 00:55:15.365
to Lincoln, Nebraska, good job.
There you go.
00:55:15.366 --> 00:55:19.932
[cheers and applause]
00:55:19.933 --> 00:55:21.732
- [singing] I\'m gonna love you,
I\'m gonna love you
00:55:21.733 --> 00:55:26.099
both: Like I\'m gonna
lose you
00:55:26.100 --> 00:55:29.232
all: Pledge our loyalty,
your name
00:55:29.233 --> 00:55:31.065
Will I revere
00:55:31.066 --> 00:55:33.599
We\'ll raise our banners high
00:55:33.600 --> 00:55:35.832
Your standards we\'ll uphold
00:55:35.833 --> 00:55:37.665
We\'ll give it all to you
00:55:37.666 --> 00:55:41.332
And I... I think of you
00:55:41.333 --> 00:55:46.665
I want to be your lady baby
00:55:46.666 --> 00:55:48.765
Give me a call boo
00:55:48.766 --> 00:55:52.833
If your love is strong
I\'ll give my all to you
00:56:07.466 --> 00:56:10.765
- I\'ve never told my dad
that I am a feminist,
00:56:10.766 --> 00:56:13.099
like, just straight out
00:56:13.100 --> 00:56:19.765
but I\'ve told him
about ideas of feminism.
00:56:19.766 --> 00:56:21.232
I\'ll send it to you.
00:56:21.233 --> 00:56:23.232
He is not like that at all.
00:56:23.233 --> 00:56:26.099
He is a person
that believes that men
00:56:26.100 --> 00:56:27.765
should have higher power,
00:56:27.766 --> 00:56:30.132
or a woman should do this,
women should do that.
00:56:30.133 --> 00:56:31.765
I try to not talk
about the things
00:56:31.766 --> 00:56:34.599
that we disagree about
00:56:34.600 --> 00:56:38.599
because... I mean,
00:56:38.600 --> 00:56:41.732
because... because
we\'re so far away.
00:56:41.733 --> 00:56:43.499
- I love you so much.
00:56:43.500 --> 00:56:45.665
- He is one of the most people
that I\'m afraid of
00:56:45.666 --> 00:56:47.732
if I have, like,
a conflict with them
00:56:47.733 --> 00:56:50.065
and something happens to him,
and he\'s away from me...
00:56:50.066 --> 00:56:51.432
I wouldn\'t forgive myself.
00:56:51.433 --> 00:56:53.632
So you\'re coming on the 18th?
00:56:53.633 --> 00:56:55.899
- I will arrive the 18th, yes.
00:56:55.900 --> 00:56:59.133
I\'m very proud of you.
00:57:34.400 --> 00:57:35.665
- Thank you, Boba, this means...
00:57:35.666 --> 00:57:37.132
- [speaking Arabic]
00:57:37.133 --> 00:57:39.865
- This means the world to me,
Boba, thank you.
00:57:39.866 --> 00:57:42.532
- Are you ready for the big day?
00:57:42.533 --> 00:57:44.499
- Prom?
- Eh?
00:57:44.500 --> 00:57:47.332
- Yeah, I\'m ready.
I\'m excited.
00:57:47.333 --> 00:57:49.632
I don\'t know if you can see it,
00:57:49.633 --> 00:57:55.199
but... so it\'s, like, two pieces.
00:57:55.200 --> 00:57:56.466
This is this.
00:58:02.533 --> 00:58:04.566
- Probably 11:00.
00:58:06.566 --> 00:58:08.565
- Probably.
00:58:08.566 --> 00:58:10.699
No, we didn\'t plan it yet,
we didn\'t talk about it
00:58:10.700 --> 00:58:12.466
but probably.
00:58:31.366 --> 00:58:33.699
- It\'s part of
the eye shadow but...
00:58:33.700 --> 00:58:35.932
Yo, dude, I feel bad.
Focus on your own makeup.
00:58:35.933 --> 00:58:37.799
I can look like a potato.
00:58:37.800 --> 00:58:39.132
- No, you can\'t look like
a potato.
00:58:39.133 --> 00:58:40.133
- It\'s prom.
- I am a potato.
00:58:40.134 --> 00:58:42.032
Oh, you\'re doing it, I...
00:58:42.033 --> 00:58:46.966
[instrumental music]
00:59:07.933 --> 00:59:09.365
- Mama!
00:59:09.366 --> 00:59:10.799
Zema, look at the bottom.
00:59:10.800 --> 00:59:12.199
It looks weird.
Wait, hold on.
00:59:12.200 --> 00:59:13.865
Look at the bottom.
Mama!
00:59:13.866 --> 00:59:16.365
I\'m having a mess
right now, Mom.
00:59:16.366 --> 00:59:18.165
Zema, oh, my God.
00:59:18.166 --> 00:59:20.932
- Just safety pin it, it\'s okay.
- Look at this.
00:59:20.933 --> 00:59:23.499
- It\'s fine, go with it, Dalya.
00:59:23.500 --> 00:59:25.466
- I\'m so frustrated.
00:59:26.833 --> 00:59:29.265
I need my mom right now.
00:59:29.266 --> 00:59:30.433
[horn honks]
00:59:35.433 --> 00:59:37.332
- I\'m on the verge of crying
00:59:37.333 --> 00:59:39.599
but I\'m not gonna cry because
I\'m not ruining my makeup.
00:59:39.600 --> 00:59:41.432
I\'m not.
00:59:41.433 --> 00:59:43.299
Then after, if I cry then
I\'m gonna worry about my makeup
00:59:43.300 --> 00:59:44.700
- And I\'m not gonna...
- Oh, my God.
00:59:46.766 --> 00:59:49.132
- Here?
00:59:49.133 --> 00:59:51.432
- Okay, say cheese on my camera.
00:59:51.433 --> 00:59:53.599
Both: Cheese.
00:59:53.600 --> 00:59:55.533
- With an attitude, come on.
01:00:07.433 --> 01:00:10.199
- [singing] Ooh, ooh,
you, ooh, ooh
01:00:10.200 --> 01:00:15.532
You, ooh, ooh, you, ooh, ooh
01:00:15.533 --> 01:00:19.265
Ooh, I say, \"your place,\"
then we leave
01:00:19.266 --> 01:00:20.599
- I don\'t know this song.
01:00:20.600 --> 01:00:24.299
- I don\'t know it either
- Me neither.
01:00:24.300 --> 01:00:29.633
- [singing] You, ooh, ooh,
you, ooh, ooh
01:00:35.466 --> 01:00:39.199
- I never really imagined myself
in the future.
01:00:39.200 --> 01:00:42.765
I don\'t really think
about my past anymore.
01:00:42.766 --> 01:00:45.865
I just live here now
in the present.
01:00:45.866 --> 01:00:51.132
And trying to get to the future,
and to be successful.
01:00:51.133 --> 01:00:57.633
And my future also involves my
country and my past.
01:00:59.366 --> 01:01:01.999
I\'ve always wanted
to go to college.
01:01:02.000 --> 01:01:03.732
A lot of people in Syria
don\'t really care
01:01:03.733 --> 01:01:05.666
about going to college.
01:01:08.366 --> 01:01:11.232
I want to study.
I want to excel.
01:01:11.233 --> 01:01:14.599
I want to get my Masters.
01:01:14.600 --> 01:01:17.533
[muffled music]
01:01:28.500 --> 01:01:31.733
Do I open the UCSB first
or the Occi first?
01:01:33.733 --> 01:01:35.665
\'Cause I already know UCSB...
I\'m not getting accepted.
01:01:35.666 --> 01:01:37.499
I already know that.
01:01:37.500 --> 01:01:39.099
- Okay.
01:01:39.100 --> 01:01:40.432
- Occi, there is a chance,
01:01:40.433 --> 01:01:43.232
but I don\'t know, I\'m so scared.
01:01:43.233 --> 01:01:44.899
- What happened?
01:01:44.900 --> 01:01:46.899
- I\'m gonna check if
I got accepted to it or not.
01:01:46.900 --> 01:01:48.065
So I have two schools, Mom.
01:01:48.066 --> 01:01:49.932
- Okay.
01:01:49.933 --> 01:01:51.499
- Okay, this one I\'m not gonna
get accepted so I don\'t.
01:01:51.500 --> 01:01:53.732
- Hopefully you\'ll get some.
01:01:53.733 --> 01:01:54.999
- I\'m scared now, ugh.
01:01:55.000 --> 01:01:57.266
- [speaking Arabic]
01:02:00.066 --> 01:02:02.265
- There you go...
\"Thank you for applying
01:02:02.266 --> 01:02:04.499
\"to the University
of California, Santa Barbara.
01:02:04.500 --> 01:02:09.932
\"Sorry to say that we will be
unable to offer you admission
01:02:09.933 --> 01:02:13.765
as a freshman
for the Fall 2016 term.\"
01:02:13.766 --> 01:02:15.132
Their loss.
01:02:15.133 --> 01:02:16.899
- All right, their loss.
- Their loss.
01:02:16.900 --> 01:02:18.499
[speaking Arabic]
01:02:18.500 --> 01:02:20.132
I\'m scared... I don\'t want
to look at that one.
01:02:20.133 --> 01:02:21.965
- It\'s okay.
- Okay, now Occi.
01:02:21.966 --> 01:02:25.065
I don\'t want to look, guys,
I don\'t want to look.
01:02:25.066 --> 01:02:27.633
- Okay, status update,
view update.
01:02:29.600 --> 01:02:30.765
- Dear Dalya...
01:02:30.766 --> 01:02:31.900
- Dear Dalya...
01:02:32.466 --> 01:02:34.632
Ah, no!
01:02:34.633 --> 01:02:37.132
No, damn it!
01:02:37.133 --> 01:02:40.999
The schools that I had
a nervous breakdown applying to
01:02:41.000 --> 01:02:42.966
I got rejected from.
01:02:44.666 --> 01:02:46.132
- Yeah.
- It\'s okay.
01:02:46.133 --> 01:02:47.565
- Well, they\'re
really competitive, so...
01:02:47.566 --> 01:02:48.566
- Yeah, it\'s okay.
- That\'s fine.
01:02:48.567 --> 01:02:50.132
- Don\'t worry about it.
01:02:50.133 --> 01:02:51.565
- We can talk about
the option of community college.
01:02:51.566 --> 01:02:53.599
- No, that\'s not what
I want to do.
01:02:53.600 --> 01:02:57.165
- Okay...\'cause the option
of community college...
01:02:57.166 --> 01:03:00.699
You\'re able to transfer
somewhere else.
01:03:00.700 --> 01:03:03.232
Maybe a school, you know,
after you\'re sure exactly
01:03:03.233 --> 01:03:06.065
what you\'re gonna be
majoring in,
01:03:06.066 --> 01:03:09.199
and then you know
what school you\'re really...
01:03:09.200 --> 01:03:12.133
[instrumental music]
01:03:19.666 --> 01:03:26.465
- I saw a picture of my mom
and dad in Syria.
01:03:26.466 --> 01:03:28.632
It was, like, in front of, like,
01:03:28.633 --> 01:03:31.499
a really famous mosque in Aleppo
01:03:31.500 --> 01:03:33.965
and I was just like oh,
my God, the feels, like,
01:03:33.966 --> 01:03:35.233
why can\'t this come back?
01:03:37.066 --> 01:03:38.732
For the past three years
01:03:38.733 --> 01:03:43.132
I\'ve blocked any association
with, like, family
01:03:43.133 --> 01:03:44.732
and I just kind of became, like,
01:03:44.733 --> 01:03:46.865
cold-hearted about it,
like, I don\'t care.
01:03:46.866 --> 01:03:48.499
My parents are divorced.
01:03:48.500 --> 01:03:50.332
I don\'t care, like,
why is this a big deal?
01:03:50.333 --> 01:03:53.299
But lately it\'s,
like, coming back.
01:03:53.300 --> 01:03:56.065
Like, I actually do wish
that we would just, like,
01:03:56.066 --> 01:03:58.799
for example
on a road trip... my dad,
01:03:58.800 --> 01:04:02.899
my mom, and my brothers.
01:04:02.900 --> 01:04:04.932
But now it\'s just my mom
and my brother
01:04:04.933 --> 01:04:07.266
that\'s driving,
and I\'m just there.
01:04:14.400 --> 01:04:15.765
So you had three weddings?
01:04:15.766 --> 01:04:18.865
- Yeah, I had three weddings.
01:04:18.866 --> 01:04:22.132
- But which one was
your favorite?
01:04:22.133 --> 01:04:25.299
- The first one for sure,
in Saudi Arabia.
01:04:25.300 --> 01:04:27.465
- Really?
- Yeah.
01:04:27.466 --> 01:04:29.100
It was very nice wedding.
01:04:36.366 --> 01:04:37.433
- Really?
01:04:47.133 --> 01:04:49.232
- Wow.
01:04:49.233 --> 01:04:50.765
Is that the first time
you held Boba\'s hand?
01:04:50.766 --> 01:04:53.699
- Mm-hmm.
- [laughs]
01:04:53.700 --> 01:04:55.932
You didn\'t have so much of
a say, I feel like.
01:04:55.933 --> 01:04:57.432
- Oh?
- In choosing your husband,
01:04:57.433 --> 01:04:59.232
I didn\'t feel like you had
so much of a say.
01:04:59.233 --> 01:05:01.200
- No, no, I chose him.
01:05:03.166 --> 01:05:06.265
- But you didn\'t know better,
Mama, and he...
01:05:06.266 --> 01:05:07.999
[speaking Arabic]
01:05:08.000 --> 01:05:10.799
You were 18!
01:05:10.800 --> 01:05:13.366
Like, a year from now
I\'ll be 18.
01:05:40.933 --> 01:05:44.132
- Look where you are now.
- If you had stayed with him,
01:05:44.133 --> 01:05:46.699
you wouldn\'t be
where you are now.
01:05:46.700 --> 01:05:50.032
Studying, and you became
an independent woman,
01:05:50.033 --> 01:05:51.832
Yani, and I love
01:05:51.833 --> 01:05:53.433
that and I admire
that about you so much.
01:05:55.500 --> 01:05:58.200
So he\'s coming for graduation.
01:06:46.600 --> 01:06:51.466
[soft music]
01:07:08.833 --> 01:07:11.965
- I never imagined myself, like,
going far in education.
01:07:11.966 --> 01:07:14.899
I just imagined myself
just going to college,
01:07:14.900 --> 01:07:18.765
then getting married, like,
just like any other Arab girl.
01:07:18.766 --> 01:07:20.933
But now, no.
01:07:24.833 --> 01:07:27.132
I don\'t want to get married
in the near future,
01:07:27.133 --> 01:07:28.499
and the big part of it is
01:07:28.500 --> 01:07:30.965
because I don\'t want
the experience
01:07:30.966 --> 01:07:35.000
that my mom went through
with my dad to happen with me.
01:07:38.066 --> 01:07:41.565
Okay, like, I love my dad
and all but a lot of the things
01:07:41.566 --> 01:07:43.265
that he did makes me fear
01:07:43.266 --> 01:07:46.299
that all men are, like,
01:07:46.300 --> 01:07:49.733
they have the bad part
of my dad.
01:07:51.166 --> 01:07:57.166
[soft music]
01:08:48.033 --> 01:08:52.665
- I enjoy to have
everybody around me.
01:08:52.666 --> 01:08:55.365
I mean, when I\'m happy,
when I\'m sad.
01:08:55.366 --> 01:08:58.032
I mean, my family
are always next to me.
01:08:58.033 --> 01:09:03.032
Especially my two sisters,
my mom, always next to me.
01:09:03.033 --> 01:09:06.133
[speaking Arabic]
01:09:18.900 --> 01:09:21.766
- Thank you.
- You\'re welcome.
01:09:35.466 --> 01:09:37.432
[all exclaiming]
- Stop, stop, stop.
01:09:37.433 --> 01:09:40.800
[all ululating]
01:10:05.033 --> 01:10:09.966
[light music playing]
01:10:43.800 --> 01:10:47.932
- I tried to cram everything
in these four years,
01:10:47.933 --> 01:10:50.465
and I still want to do more
because, like,
01:10:50.466 --> 01:10:53.732
how much can I get done
in these four years?
01:10:53.733 --> 01:10:56.632
I am still 17.
01:10:56.633 --> 01:11:00.133
Of course I still have
a lot more time.
01:11:22.800 --> 01:11:24.632
- Good evening, and welcome
01:11:24.633 --> 01:11:26.999
to Holy Family Catholic Church,
01:11:27.000 --> 01:11:31.199
and welcome to the 76th
graduation ceremony
01:11:31.200 --> 01:11:34.299
of Holy County High School
College Preparatory.
01:11:34.300 --> 01:11:38.432
We are pleased to celebrate
and honor the accomplishments
01:11:38.433 --> 01:11:44.299
of these 39 members
of the class of 2016.
01:11:44.300 --> 01:11:46.999
- [singing] I could almost kiss
the stars
01:11:47.000 --> 01:11:51.532
For shining so bright
01:11:51.533 --> 01:11:56.499
When I see you smiling I go
01:11:56.500 --> 01:12:00.232
Oh, oh, oh
01:12:00.233 --> 01:12:04.699
I would never want to miss this
01:12:04.700 --> 01:12:09.365
\'Cause in my heart
I know what this is
01:12:09.366 --> 01:12:11.865
Hey now, hey now
01:12:11.866 --> 01:12:16.865
This is what dreams are made of
01:12:16.866 --> 01:12:19.665
Hey now, hey now
01:12:19.666 --> 01:12:24.932
This is what dreams are made of
01:12:24.933 --> 01:12:26.532
- Dalya Zima.
01:12:26.533 --> 01:12:29.932
[cheers and applause]
01:12:29.933 --> 01:12:31.933
- Thank you.
01:12:34.166 --> 01:12:36.766
[all cheering]
01:12:41.500 --> 01:12:42.600
- Hi, Mama.
01:12:46.600 --> 01:12:47.833
Mommy, it was like...
01:12:56.200 --> 01:12:58.333
- Safi!
01:13:01.100 --> 01:13:03.166
[overlapping chatter]
01:13:06.266 --> 01:13:09.100
[soft music]
01:14:03.733 --> 01:14:08.400
[crowd chanting]
01:14:15.133 --> 01:14:16.632
- Do something now!
01:14:16.633 --> 01:14:19.199
Do something now!
Do something now!
01:14:19.200 --> 01:14:20.465
[chanting continues]
01:14:20.466 --> 01:14:22.865
- Let them in.
Let them in.
01:14:22.866 --> 01:14:25.732
Let them in. Let them in.
01:14:25.733 --> 01:14:28.365
Let them in.
Let them in.
01:14:28.366 --> 01:14:32.332
- No hate, no fear,
Iranians are welcome here.
01:14:32.333 --> 01:14:36.065
No hate, no fear,
Iranians are welcome here.
01:14:36.066 --> 01:14:39.865
No hate, no fear, Iranians
are welcome here.
01:14:39.866 --> 01:14:43.499
No hate, no fear,
Iranians are welcome here.
01:14:43.500 --> 01:14:47.233
[soft music]
