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(jacket rustling)

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- Well, if you're ready to go, I am.

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(gentle music)

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The 92 is the one we want.

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(bus rumbling)

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- [Announcer] Glenoaks and Allen,

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followed by Glenoaks and Thompson.

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Watch your step when exiting the bus.

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(gentle music)

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(children chattering)

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(engines rumbling)

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- This is what I wear when I'm on duty,

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my high visibility vest, and
we have to wear this whistle

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in case there's an emergency,
and my ID, and my cap.

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We're required to wear all these
things when we are on duty,

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which I will be for an hour.

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(engine's rumbling)

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- [Parent] Thank you.

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- You're welcome.

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This is a really good place to work.

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It's not so busy that I
get overwhelmed, usually.

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The only thing I really
don't like is when it rains.

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But, other than that,
I really love my job.

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Excuse me, please.

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(children chattering)

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(engines rumbling)

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(door buzzing)

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(lights clicking)

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(paper rustling)

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My mother subscribed to
a lot of the old "LIFE"

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and "Look" magazines back
in the '60s and early '70s.

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And I still have them up.

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I guess it's sort of a reminder
of what I would've liked

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my life to have been
under other circumstances.

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Growing up back in
Indiana is a lot different

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than out here, and remember,
I grew up 40 odd years ago.

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And 40 odd years ago, it was
a very, very different world.

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(gentle music)

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My mother met my father in Heidelberg.

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He was a married man.

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They had a wild, passionate,
torrid love affair

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in Heidelberg, Germany.

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In the process they manufactured me.

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In 1955 you didn't get
pregnant without a husband.

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So I think you can figure out

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for yourself what kind
of situation she was in.

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Mother and I lived together
with my grandmother.

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That was Jeffersonville, Indiana

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and she had no good reason
to be any great fan of me.

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I mean, I was wayward,
stubborn, illegitimate brat.

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(hands clap)

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So it was not a happy arrangement.

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But the thing I most remember

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about my elementary school years,

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my mother was in a, you know, mental ward

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in a hospital, and they had
her there for six months

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in daily electro shock treatments.

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That was the only treatment
they had back in the 1960s.

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- [Interviewer] What was it like for you

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when she was in the hospital?

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- Very lonely, very lonely
and I wished she was back.

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I even fantasized about going in there

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with a bunch of guys and
breaking her out of the place.

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(gentle music)

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I mean, I knew I was different
from people in some ways,

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but I didn't, I never
thought I was autistic.

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None of the concept existed,

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and I experienced terrible bullying.

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Living in fear and terror every day,

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wanting to crawl in a hole and
pull the hole in after you.

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(crowd cheering)

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But midway through my junior
year of high school, you know,

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somebody suggested to me that
I join a basketball team.

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So I did, they may be a student manager,

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and that, sort of,
changed everything for me.

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Because basketball is a
really big sport in Indiana

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and if you're on a team,
you're a automatic hero.

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So that pretty much ended the bullying,

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for which I was deeply grateful.

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Yeah, I was, sort of, an
honorary member of the in crowd,

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you might put it.

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And you didn't get all the perks.

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I mean, I never got a
chance to date anybody.

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I wouldn't even have
known how to date anybody.

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Because back then I had no social skills,

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and let's just say that
my mother and grandmother

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were not people who could have helped me.

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So, I guess these were,
kind of, a wish fulfillment,

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fantasy, but these were
representations of a kind

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of woman I might want to have.

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Like her, I mean, her smile
seemed to promise mischief,

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but a good kind of mischief.

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And she seemed, you know, happy,
straightforward, outgoing.

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They basically, I guess,
their in visual form,

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they represent the kind of
quality I would like in a woman.

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If they were real people and
I ran into them on the street,

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I would want to talk with
them and get to know them.

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So, no, I never been in love.

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Never had a girlfriend, never dated,

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never had a relationship.

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And as I say, given my background,

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that was probably far the best.

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Largely because I'm very,
very hesitant to make a move

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in a game that I don't really understand.

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(crowd chattering)

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- Okay, first off,
anybody have any questions

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or comments about the
sex ed movie last week?

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Yes.

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- The only comment I have is that

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that movie was very, very good.

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Very interesting, and really
even kind of philosophical.

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Makes you think about the future.

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- Right.

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What about finding someone to love you

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and someone that you can love?

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How do we start to do that?

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You need to have confidence.

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The best relationship is
having a good relationship.

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- [Student] With yourself.

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- With yourself.

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But it's also nice that
someone appreciates

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the effort someone makes.

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Everybody has something they
might be self-conscious about.

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You wanna spend time with
someone who's good for you.

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That makes you feel good
about how you are right now,

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not how you're gonna be years from now,

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and you wanna, you know, feel good,

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and that makes you feel
good and worthwhile.

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- I feel that a lot of people
admire me, they respect me,

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they look up to me as a role model,

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but they wouldn't
necessarily want to date me,

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or have a relationship with me.

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And also I'm dead scared to,

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you know, make any opening move

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because I'm not quite sure
what the opening move would be.

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And I'm afraid of, you know,

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doing anything that might
give people wrong ideas.

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- Hmm, okay. Opening move.

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So does that mean if we're,

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okay, a opening move, meaning?

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- Asking somebody out.

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But, you know, going out to coffee or,

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you know, on a date or something.

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What it boils down to is
this, how would I know when

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the conditions are right
for me to ask somebody out?

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- Okay.

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- When it would be appropriate,
when it would be right,

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when I wouldn't be putting myself in

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a potentially dangerous, I
don't mean physically dangerous,

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but socially dangerous situation.

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- Okay.

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I have confidence in you.

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'Cause you have good communication skills.

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What you would do, is just ask someone.

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So you would say, you
can just say to someone,

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"Would you like to have coffee sometime?"

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And they'll say yes or no.

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And it doesn't have to be
somebody you know really well.

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'Cause sometimes someone else
will introduce you to someone.

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So, for example, if you tell me

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some place you're going to be.

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- Well, I'll be going to a poetry reading.

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I go to a poetry reading once every month.

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And I'm going that tomorrow
night, as a matter of fact.

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- Okay, where is this?

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- Barnes and Noble book
store in downtown Burbank

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across the street from the Ikea.

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- Okay, he goes to a poetry reading,

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Barnes and Noble, Burbank.

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- Last Friday of each month.

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- Last Friday of each month.

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One Friday, some of you guys go.

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- Yeah, yeah, I will.

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- All right.

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When he goes with you, and
he's talking to someone,

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he'll introduce you to someone
and it just starts like that.

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Now, eventually some of the
ladies are gonna go together,

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on a Friday to hear the poetry,
because while you are there

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they may meet someone,
and so on and so forth.

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So that's how you network.

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- Yeah.

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- Because see, someone will see you

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with these three beauties, and be like,

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"Wow, Howard got it going on."

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So that's a good idea, but no,

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don't sell yourself short,
you have great skills.

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- Yeah.

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(bucket clacking)

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- Is this about the right amount of soap?

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- When you're washing colors,

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you wanna put a little bit more.

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- Okay, so let me put my quarters in.

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(quarters clinking)

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38 minutes for the washer,

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and then after that we put it the dryer.

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- How are you on food?

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Where's your water?

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Oh, okay, you'll be needing some water.

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- We have a official title,

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it's community living specialist.

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What they do is they assist

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the people who live in this building.

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- Yeah.

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(razor buzzing)

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- For Howard, I pretty
much encourage independent,

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forward moving living.

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We wanna get out there in the community,

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make sure that he's living life regularly,

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or like majority of us, independently.

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- Let me just finish

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by telling you about
the reunion real quick.

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- Okay.

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- You know, I'll be
going on, well probably,

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the reunion itself will be on the 27th

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at the Quadrangle Cafe.

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- Okay.

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- I'll be staying back there
for my birthday, August 1st.

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I'll be 58 years old.

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- 58? High five.

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- 58 years old.

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Cindy, I have made it that far.

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- I know, I know.

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- This is my old high school ID.

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- (laughing) Oh my goodness.

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Can you get a shot of this?

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Wow.

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- Oh, here's all the people
who graduated with me,

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the complete list.

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- Oh wow.

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- Yep.

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- There's quite a few of you guys.

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And who do you wanna see the most?

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Do you have any particular woman

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that you wanna see how they look now?

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- Well, I just want to
see them all basically.

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- Yeah. Well, that's good.

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Okay.

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- I do want to make a good
professional impression

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on people when I go back.

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- And I want you to get
a date, more importantly.

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(both laughing)

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- You know, a date would be nice.

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- Yes. Especially for your birthday.

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(footsteps shuffling)

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(light clicking)

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- Handsome devil.

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(Cindy laughing)

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(gentle music)

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I've often wondered what would've happened

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if I had had a relationship,
and married somebody,

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and stayed back in Indiana.

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No, if I had fallen in
love married somebody,

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and stayed back there, I
certainly wouldn't be here.

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Maybe it was worth it.

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(gentle music)

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This is home, this is where I grew up.

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It's so different from what I remember.

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It's just so different
from what I remember.

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(gentle music)

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You know, a lot of kids
get bullied to suicide.

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I almost did that during my
early high school years, too.

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There was one time when I, you
know, planned to throw myself

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off the top of building Louisville.

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The only reason I didn't was
'cause there was a doorman

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in front of the door
and I couldn't get in.

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I almost became one of those kids

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who got bullied to suicide.

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And tonight I get to see how

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all my other friend's lives turned out.

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Probably not the same as mine,

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probably quite a bit different.

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(gentle music)

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(door clicking)

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- Howard!

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- Hello.

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- How are you?

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- How are you?

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- I am Claire.
- Hi Claire.

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- Barbara's daughter.

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- Hi, Howard.

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- Hi, Barbara.

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- So nice to see you again.

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- Nice to see you, too.

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I haven't seen you for so long.

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- I know it's been many years.

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- Yeah.

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Hello, Paul, how are you?

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- Good. Good to see you.

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- Good to see you. too.

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- You still out in California?

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- Yeah, I'm still in California.

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- It's great seeing you.

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You flew all the way out here?

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(gentle music)

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- Oh my gosh.

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- I have been waiting for.

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- We tried to call you, we
wanted to take in the Limo.

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You look awesome.

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- They drove me, they drove me.

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- We'll drive you home,
you look awesome, buddy.

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- Thank you.

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- We've grown up a little bit, haven't we?

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- Yesterday I was 18, now I'm 58.

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- Yeah, well, I'll be 58 in September.

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So, I guess we're all
getting up at that age.

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(driving music)

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- You made it from California twice.

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- I did, I did.

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So what are you doing now?

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- I'm still here, got the
office supply company,

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same as usual.

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And, the kids are growing.

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- I've got a lot of respect for Howard.

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What he's done with his life.

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And you know, he knows everybody here.

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He always does.

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And he's always glad to see everybody.

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And everybody's glad to see him.

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Just a real special person.

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- Howard was probably,
I would have to say,

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at that time period was
a misunderstood student

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because of his disabilities.

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And, of course, back in 1969 through 1973,

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you didn't have that much

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of attention paid to
disabilities at that time.

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It wasn't in the forefront like it is now.

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And so Howard was accepted,

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but there were folks that
would make fun of Howard.

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(gentle music)

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(upbeat rock music)

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- I wanted to apologize to you.

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- For what?

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- 'Cause we were always
so mean to you in school.

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- Oh, well.

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- We didn't understand.

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- You made your apologies tonight.

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- No, I do, I want to apologize to you

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and I'm so glad that you're here.

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Well, thank you, and, you know,

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I enjoy my social life.

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- Good, I hope you do. I hope you do.

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(gentle music)

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- He's got a lot to teach people.

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'Cause we are a good
example of the ignorance

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that people had about
this so many years ago.

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- Yeah, I'm afraid so.

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- It's true, I mean, we never
even heard the word autistic.

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- I'm glad you gave your apology.

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That does mean a lot to me to me.

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You know, you feel better about it.

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It's done, and I'm glad, you
know, it turned out okay.

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And, you know, I'm glad you're on my side.

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- Absolutely.

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- And you know, together we
can, maybe, make a difference.

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I know.

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- So we've all grown up and
we've all learned a lot.

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- Yeah, and you're married to somebody?

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- I am married to Monty, we've
been married for 15 years.

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- I have never had a relationship.

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I never been in one,
but I would like to try.

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- I think there's absolutely no reason why

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you can't participate in a relationship.

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- Yeah, I'm hoping that
one day I can attract,

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I can get involved with
a woman who, you know,

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I can have a real relationship with.

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I know they're 24/7 work, you know,

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I mean, it's not something to
be taken lightly, personally.

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- In order to find the right person,

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you have to be the right person.

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And you have learned how
to be the right person.

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- Yeah.

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(gentle music)

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You can keep my card.

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- I intend to.

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- Yeah, and, Leanne, thank you very much.

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- Well, you're welcome.

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(gentle music)

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- If I could go back 40 years, well,

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to be honest, I'm not sure
how if things really would

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be all that much different,

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even if I did go back
knowing what I know now.

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I might, I probably wouldn't be as much

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of a social blunder as I was back then,

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but I'm just really not sure

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if it would be all that different,

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even if I could travel back
in time with what I know now.

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They might have been
somewhat different, but.

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But I think some things are just meant

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to turn out the way they did.

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(gentle music)

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(engines roaring)

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(kids chattering)