What happens to a family when a mother goes to prison? How is day-to-day…
Malqueridas
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An intimate exploration of life inside a Chilean women’s prison, where incarcerated mothers are allowed to keep their children with them until the age of two. After this point, the mothers lose control over who cares for their children and whether they can maintain contact with them.
The documentary is constructed entirely from clandestinely shot cell phone footage and still photographs taken by the inmates themselves, providing an unfiltered and deeply personal perspective on their experiences. Through these fragmented visuals, the film captures the daily struggles of more than 20 mothers.
Director Tana Gilbert’s decision to preserve the original vertical format of the footage and re-digitize it to create a physical presence underscores the film’s commitment to authenticity.
Themes of motherhood, powerlessness, longing, and resilience are interwoven with moments of mutual support and affection among the prisoners, highlighting how solidarity becomes a form of resistance and empowerment.
“An example of Sisterhood’s formidable strengths.” – Kees Driessen, Business Doc Europe
“An anthem of human, maternal, cinematographic resistance” – Antonio Maiorino, Taxidrivers
“The strength of Malqueridas lies right on the boundary between vision and blindness, the same that separates forced isolation from the idea of a city.” – Michele Faggi, Indie-Eye Cinema
“Because its subject is vertiginous, because its formal approach is masterful, a radical gesture that makes the off-screen come to life and shows us only the details, the blurred image, the stolen pixels. Narrative and set-up are at the service of the witnesses. The director puts us side by side with the incarcerated women, without passing any judgment on their value, and this is a prowess of cinema’s poetic license” - Jury statement, Settimana Internazionale della Critica 2023
“Malqueridas is so full of incident and emotion that it could be a Charles Dickens novel, but these are real people. The film gives a face and voice to the unseen, allowing the viewer to glimpse the humanity of the inmates and care about all the heartbreak they endure.” – Allan Hunter, Screen International
“A view of this world that is more intimate and prisoner-led than what is usually depicted in movies about jail life.” – Carmen Gray, The Film Verdict
“Tana Gilbert has signed a work of annihilating and aching beauty, which manages to become even utopian; among the first works seen at the Venice Lido one of the most convincing, and courageous.” – Raffaele Meale, Quinlan
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The images in this film were created
with cell phones by women serving time in prison.
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According to Chilean prison regulations,
it is forbidden to have recording devices in prison.
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Most of these images were
destined to be seized or lost.
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Go to sleep baby.
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♪ Little white horse,
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Take me away from here,
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Take me to my village,
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Where I was born.
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I have, I have, I have,
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You have nothing,
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I have three sheep
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In a hut ♪
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We were allowed to keep them
until they turned two.
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The guard...
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...always told us,
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“You either keep the baby here,
or send him outside.”
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Those are your only options.
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Like this.
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How does that crazy tongue go?
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Laugh out loud.
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He liked to be with me.
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It was hard to get him
to sleep in the crib.
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I’d lay him down
with me in my bed.
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At night, he’d put
his little foot on my waist.
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He loved to put
his mouth on my face.
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He liked my smell, the warmth.
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My baby was so cuddly.
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I’d lay him in bed next to me,
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and I’d move to the bed\'s side
so he could have all of it.
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He followed me everywhere.
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He liked to feel his mommy.
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I think that must be it.
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When the guard came to
lock us up each afternoon,
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the boy already knew
the sound of the keys.
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He knew right away
we’d be locked up.
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He’d say:
“No, Mama!”
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He didn’t want to be locked up.
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Once we...
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...were in the room,
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he’d call to the corporal,
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“Corporal! Corporal!”
to open the door for him.
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He’d cry himself to sleep.
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We\'d be locked in the nursery
until the next day.
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... happy birthday to you!
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Bravo!
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Blow out the candles,
blow out the candles!
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Blow them out!
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Bravo!
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Take a bite! Take a bite!
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My sister committed
to taking care of him.
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She was the only one
in my family who could.
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She had a job,
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and I always saw her
as responsible.
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My daughter
already lived with her.
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Our last night together
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I stayed up watching him.
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He was sleeping,
but he didn’t let go of my hand.
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My baby.
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We played all morning,
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until he was picked up.
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My sister came to get him
with my older daughter.
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When she saw me, she asked,
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“Mommy, why don’t you
come with us?
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You always say time
goes by quickly, but it doesn’t”
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I told her that meanwhile she had
to take care of her little brother,
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and she told me
she’d never abandon him.
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He waved his little hand
and said goodbye.
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I only thought about
the 10 years I had left.
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The guard came to get me
to transfer me to another block.
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Hello my love!
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Hi son!
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- Hi.
- How are you?
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How are you, son?
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What are you up to?
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Did you do your homework?
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Juliano!
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- What?
- Did you do your homework?
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Let me talk to Amaro.
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Amaro!
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What are you up to, son?
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What are you doing, honey?
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Oh honey, don’t cry!
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Amaro!
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What are you doing?
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My hair’s a mess,
I was cleaning.
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Just wait for me!
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I remember how excited I
waited for their visit.
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That morning, I packed my bag,
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I got myself a thermos,
cups, tea, sugar...
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A friend even lent me an outfit
to look pretty.
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They were supposed
to arrive at 8:00 a.m.
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It was 9:00 a.m.
and still no arrival.
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A guard came and told me,
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“They went to pick up your son
and no one was there.”
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I called my sister,
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several times,
and she didn’t answer.
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After a long time,
she turned on her phone.
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When she answered
I realized she was on drugs.
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She told me my son woke up sick.
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I asked her what he had...
if he needed anything.
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But she played dumb,
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and didn’t let me talk to him.
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She started making it hard
for me to call my children.
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Until one day
she stopped answering.
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- There’s not a damn thing.
- Yes!
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There\'s some!
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There! Way in the distance.
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Hi Mom,
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we’re so far away, but even so,
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warm greetings from the heart.
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-That thing’s in the way.
- I can see them from here.
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You can see them from here!
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- Happy New Year.
- One less year.
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Look, Jessica!
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Watch the fireworks go off!
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Happy New Year, guard!
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Freedom, freedom
freedom, freedom!
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Monday,
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Tuesday,
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Wednesday,
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Thursday,
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Friday,
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Saturday,
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Sunday,
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Monday,
00:21:53.230 --> 00:21:53.605
Tuesday,
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Wednesday,
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Thursday,
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Friday,
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Saturday,
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Sunday,
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January,
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Monday,
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February,
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Tuesday,
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March,
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Wednesday,
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April,
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Thursday,
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May,
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Friday,
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June,
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Saturday,
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July,
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Sunday,
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August,
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September,
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Monday,
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October,
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Tuesday,
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November,
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Wednesday,
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December,
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Thursday,
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January,
00:22:10.997 --> 00:22:11.415
Friday,
00:22:11.707 --> 00:22:11.957
February,
00:22:12.040 --> 00:22:12.498
Saturday,
00:22:12.540 --> 00:22:12.832
March,
00:22:12.873 --> 00:22:13.292
Sunday,
00:22:13.500 --> 00:22:13.958
April,
00:22:14.042 --> 00:22:14.542
Monday,
00:22:14.752 --> 00:22:15.043
May,
00:22:15.127 --> 00:22:15.460
Tuesday,
00:22:16.043 --> 00:22:16.252
June,
00:22:16.293 --> 00:22:16.503
Wednesday,
00:22:17.170 --> 00:22:17.378
July,
00:22:17.420 --> 00:22:17.670
Thursday,
00:22:18.130 --> 00:22:18.422
August,
00:22:18.463 --> 00:22:18.672
Friday,
00:22:19.005 --> 00:22:19.338
September,
00:22:19.422 --> 00:22:19.757
Saturday,
00:22:20.298 --> 00:22:20.673
Sunday,
00:22:20.757 --> 00:22:21.048
October,
00:22:21.340 --> 00:22:21.717
November,
00:22:22.258 --> 00:22:23.008
December.
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Some people there,
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you give them
a little affection,
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and they cling to you.
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Like when you pet
a puppy on the head.
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That\'s how we felt,
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do you believe me?
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It was a winter day,
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I remember Maca was shivering
in sandals and shorts.
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I asked her if she wanted to
borrow some clothes.
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I offered her to
put the beds together
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to be a little warmer.
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While sleeping,
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she suddenly said to me,
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\"Hey, wake up.\"
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And a bit scared,
I said, “What is it?”
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I thought the guard had come in.
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And when I moved in,
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she kissed me,
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and I kissed her back.
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I remember that night
I finally touched her hair.
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I’d always looked at it,
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It was so beautiful,
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it was curly and past her waist.
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I’d just come from
a terrible relationship,
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I’d given so much.
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I told Maca everything,
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she knew my most
intimate secrets.
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I told her that it wasn’t my kids\'
father who got me into crime,
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but that I started
when I was little.
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And I did well
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so I kept doing the same thing.
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Show what movie we’re watching.
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We’re watching
a very good movie,
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with my sweetie.
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Right, baby?
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It’s so cold,
we’re warm in here.
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Yes it is.
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- Are you cold?
- No, not next to you.
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You’re my human heater.
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- Give me a kiss.
- I’m falling asleep.
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I can’t...
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- I’m covered all the way up.
- Look baby!
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Hello!
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- Let’s see.
- You’re so hot.
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I\'m hungry.
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Let\'s go eat!
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- Come on!
- Give me a kiss.
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And another.
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This is the best part.
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- Do we have a lighter, baby?
- I don’t know.
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The cops!
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The fucking cops
are at the door!
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They\'re at the door!
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Hide the phone!
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- Are you recording?
- I have been for a while.
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Very good.
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I\'ll talk.
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I know what
I’m going to say.
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This is the mess
the police left after the raid,
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and we’re still
picking things up.
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And we continue
picking things up.
00:28:14.985 --> 00:28:18.657
Look what a fucking mess
the cops left,
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now it’s neatened up.
00:28:22.202 --> 00:28:24.578
They broke the mirrors,
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they had no mercy on anything.
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We can\'t be here anymore.
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- Guard!
- Shut up!
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The phone!
00:28:36.715 --> 00:28:38.760
Hide the phone!
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María!
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The first time
I was in an isolation cell,
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it was the middle of winter.
00:29:25.598 --> 00:29:28.685
The guard was so mean,
she threw water inside.
00:29:29.935 --> 00:29:32.397
At night we slept
in wet clothes.
00:29:37.360 --> 00:29:40.447
Every day they put us
out in the yard.
00:29:42.073 --> 00:29:44.450
As if it were a raid.
00:29:48.287 --> 00:29:50.540
We had to drop our pants,
00:29:51.415 --> 00:29:53.458
get down on all fours,
00:29:54.210 --> 00:29:58.463
we had spread our buttocks
to see if we hid something.
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Sister!
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When they locked us back up,
00:30:12.312 --> 00:30:14.730
Jaque was in
the cell next door.
00:30:16.148 --> 00:30:19.193
She was in rough shape,
she started talking to me,
00:30:20.487 --> 00:30:23.532
“Sister, I don’t want
to be alone here,” she’d say.
00:30:24.698 --> 00:30:27.785
And I wanted her to shut up,
I wanted to sleep.
00:30:35.543 --> 00:30:38.295
At one point,
I stopped hearing her.
00:30:41.340 --> 00:30:44.510
I started calling to her because
I got a little worried,
00:30:45.803 --> 00:30:47.805
but she didn\'t answer.
00:30:50.182 --> 00:30:52.268
I thought she’d fallen asleep.
00:31:08.117 --> 00:31:10.287
The next morning
00:31:12.205 --> 00:31:14.582
I woke by the guard\'s
shouts asking for help
00:31:14.582 --> 00:31:17.043
because Jaque had
hanged herself.
00:31:32.808 --> 00:31:35.562
I immediately
thought about my kids.
00:31:36.478 --> 00:31:38.982
I wanted to know how they were.
00:32:26.195 --> 00:32:29.198
I remember that a few days
after I got out of isolation cell
00:32:29.532 --> 00:32:33.077
I was in the yard and a guard
came looking for me.
00:32:35.120 --> 00:32:37.623
The family court was notifying me
00:32:37.707 --> 00:32:41.002
that they had taken
my children to a foster home.
00:32:41.085 --> 00:32:43.378
My sister gave them up.
00:32:47.383 --> 00:32:49.177
The last time I talked to her,
00:32:49.260 --> 00:32:52.763
she said she was tired
of watching other people’s kids.
00:32:52.847 --> 00:32:54.515
But I never thought
she was capable
00:32:54.598 --> 00:32:56.725
of surrendering them.
00:33:17.955 --> 00:33:22.043
I asked to speak
with my social worker
00:33:22.127 --> 00:33:25.170
to see what could I do
for them.
00:33:26.588 --> 00:33:29.300
She told me \"you can\'t
do anything...
00:33:29.383 --> 00:33:32.803
... because you’re incarcerated,
00:33:32.887 --> 00:33:36.598
so you\'ll have to keep
your head down,
00:33:36.682 --> 00:33:39.393
and wait until
you’re out on parole.”
00:33:41.312 --> 00:33:43.522
How much longer until then?
00:34:34.698 --> 00:34:37.785
Some time later their
father was released,
00:34:38.577 --> 00:34:40.622
he’d been in jail too.
00:34:41.247 --> 00:34:46.085
I thought, once he\'s out,
he\'ll go for the kids.
00:34:49.588 --> 00:34:52.550
After a few months,
regained his footing
00:34:52.550 --> 00:34:55.928
got a stable place,
and was able to take the kids.
00:35:14.655 --> 00:35:16.865
We didn’t get along very well.
00:35:17.992 --> 00:35:20.620
When he got out
he asked to get back together.
00:35:21.078 --> 00:35:23.832
When I said no,
he was really upset.
00:35:25.332 --> 00:35:26.792
And...
00:35:26.875 --> 00:35:29.420
...he wouldn’t let me
talk to the kids.
00:35:40.055 --> 00:35:43.935
There was a guard
at the perimeter,
00:35:44.643 --> 00:35:48.522
a pathway around
the whole prison.
00:35:49.023 --> 00:35:51.817
They patrol it
to keep you from escaping.
00:35:55.028 --> 00:35:57.823
One of those guards knew me.
00:35:57.907 --> 00:35:59.658
He was one of my neighbors,
00:35:59.742 --> 00:36:03.328
he knew my family, my mother,
and little bit of my story.
00:36:06.915 --> 00:36:10.377
He gestured to my window,
00:36:10.460 --> 00:36:13.338
to give him my
telephone number.
00:36:13.422 --> 00:36:16.883
I wrote it down,
and showed it to him.
00:36:19.053 --> 00:36:21.138
Then I started getting
WhatsApp messages,
00:36:21.222 --> 00:36:24.183
with pictures of the kids,
and videos,
00:36:25.852 --> 00:36:28.103
He’d say, “Neighbor,
00:36:28.145 --> 00:36:30.438
your kids miss you.
00:36:31.898 --> 00:36:34.818
They love you and
they send you kisses.”
00:36:44.537 --> 00:36:46.872
- But, look over there.
- He’s embarrassed.
00:36:46.872 --> 00:36:48.040
Look at your mom.
00:36:48.040 --> 00:36:51.043
- Say hi to your mom.
- Hi Mom.
00:36:51.460 --> 00:36:54.088
- Ask her how she is.
- How are you?
00:36:56.340 --> 00:36:58.717
Be good, Mommy!
00:36:58.800 --> 00:37:01.345
“I’m happy here,
and I behave”.
00:37:01.428 --> 00:37:04.015
“They take care of me
and give me lots of love”.
00:37:04.098 --> 00:37:06.933
- “I go to school”.
- I go to school.
00:37:08.352 --> 00:37:09.853
Tell her you go to school...
00:37:09.937 --> 00:37:11.647
How do you behave at school?
00:37:11.730 --> 00:37:14.483
Tell her you’re going to
dress up as Puss in Boots...
00:37:15.483 --> 00:37:18.403
Tell her you’re going to
dress up as Puss in Boots.
00:37:18.403 --> 00:37:21.823
Mom, I have to go
as Puss in Boots...
00:37:23.450 --> 00:37:26.412
- “I’m going to act.”
- I’m going to act.
00:37:27.788 --> 00:37:31.458
- Tell her that you love her.
- Okay.
00:37:33.918 --> 00:37:36.338
Mommy, I love you.
00:37:36.422 --> 00:37:38.465
- Send her a kiss.
- How?
00:38:04.742 --> 00:38:09.705
Me and Maca, my partner at
the time, were not doing well.
00:38:11.123 --> 00:38:13.792
She was always high,
causing a mess.
00:38:15.002 --> 00:38:18.838
I kept having to save her,
so she wouldn’t get in trouble.
00:38:20.758 --> 00:38:24.053
Since things
were going downhill fast,
00:38:24.637 --> 00:38:26.638
I ended the relationship.
00:38:37.273 --> 00:38:40.652
The boss of
the neighboring dorm was Patty.
00:38:42.195 --> 00:38:45.742
She once came into the bathroom
and caught me cutting myself,
00:38:46.783 --> 00:38:50.370
and said, “Dumb kid,
cut that nonsense out.
00:38:51.080 --> 00:38:55.167
If you’re losing it,
pack your things and come over.
00:38:56.293 --> 00:38:58.753
At least
the girls and I are there,
00:39:00.172 --> 00:39:02.257
I\'ll take care of you.”
00:39:05.427 --> 00:39:07.930
So, over time, I moved there.
00:39:15.312 --> 00:39:18.440
I’d lie next to her,
she’d scratch my head.
00:39:19.608 --> 00:39:23.278
I’d fall asleep next to her,
it was warm.
00:39:24.738 --> 00:39:27.825
She’d give me advice on
what to do with my life.
00:39:36.833 --> 00:39:39.962
I heard the girls call her Mom,
00:39:40.712 --> 00:39:43.007
so I started
calling her that too.
00:39:43.423 --> 00:39:45.675
Mom.
00:39:48.220 --> 00:39:50.430
My jail mom.
00:40:18.250 --> 00:40:20.837
Patty wanted
to finish school.
00:40:22.128 --> 00:40:24.423
She was already in her 50s,
00:40:24.882 --> 00:40:26.925
so she was embarrassed.
00:40:28.218 --> 00:40:31.055
She’d say,
“I’m too old to go to school.”
00:40:31.722 --> 00:40:35.142
I supported her anyway,
I said, “Let’s go, Mom!”
00:40:40.480 --> 00:40:43.567
It also stood as
good conduct.
00:40:44.360 --> 00:40:48.655
In short she\'d be
eligible for parole.
00:40:51.492 --> 00:40:54.077
I remember we
stayed up at night studying.
00:40:54.912 --> 00:40:57.080
She was good at math.
00:40:58.123 --> 00:41:00.208
I didn’t know shit.
00:41:02.293 --> 00:41:04.672
I only made it to 10th grade.
00:41:40.958 --> 00:41:44.795
A few months later,
my jail mom was released.
00:41:47.297 --> 00:41:49.425
She made parole.
00:41:58.892 --> 00:42:02.520
When she left she told me,
“Daughter, you’re the eldest,
00:42:02.605 --> 00:42:04.732
so take care of the girls.\"
00:42:20.830 --> 00:42:23.667
What happened to all
the women in this house?
00:42:55.115 --> 00:42:58.868
The younger girls
slowly took over my bed.
00:43:02.080 --> 00:43:04.875
At around 11 p.m. the guard
turned off the lights.
00:43:05.333 --> 00:43:07.795
So, to hang out a little longer...
00:43:08.087 --> 00:43:10.255
I thought I’d make a candle,
00:43:11.215 --> 00:43:15.010
which was a stick
made of toilet paper and oil.
00:43:15.802 --> 00:43:18.180
And that gave us
some light at night.
00:43:23.060 --> 00:43:25.395
I used to
tell them scary stories,
00:43:25.437 --> 00:43:27.940
I loved to scare
the shit out of them.
00:43:35.738 --> 00:43:38.450
Someone always had to
go to the bathroom.
00:43:41.745 --> 00:43:44.623
We’d walk down the hallway,
which was super dark.
00:43:44.957 --> 00:43:47.668
You could hear
more joining the line.
00:43:48.043 --> 00:43:50.295
And then I would take
advantage of that to scare them.
00:43:50.378 --> 00:43:52.715
I would say to them, \"Oh, watch out,
00:43:52.715 --> 00:43:55.383
a ghost will grab your feet.\"
00:44:32.170 --> 00:44:35.548
There was a new girl
in the dorm named Mari,
00:44:37.050 --> 00:44:39.512
I think she was 18 or so.
00:44:40.970 --> 00:44:43.348
Her mother had just passed away.
00:44:43.848 --> 00:44:46.017
She was in bad shape...
00:44:46.935 --> 00:44:49.270
Because she didn’t get
to see her, or bury her,
00:44:49.270 --> 00:44:51.315
she didn’t get furlough.
00:44:57.445 --> 00:44:59.698
The girls came looking for me.
00:45:00.532 --> 00:45:02.868
I was the only one
she let near her.
00:45:03.368 --> 00:45:05.703
She didn’t want
anyone to touch her.
00:45:06.830 --> 00:45:10.250
So, I comforted her
to get her to fall asleep.
00:45:24.890 --> 00:45:27.517
I remember it was
a beautiful morning.
00:45:28.810 --> 00:45:31.397
I was having breakfast
in the room,
00:45:31.980 --> 00:45:34.442
when Mari walked in.
00:45:34.525 --> 00:45:37.068
She had a huge smile.
00:45:41.030 --> 00:45:44.075
I scratched her head and said,
“What are you up to?”
00:45:44.618 --> 00:45:47.370
She said,
“Can I ask you something?”
00:45:48.622 --> 00:45:51.040
“Can I call you Mom?”
00:45:54.335 --> 00:45:57.463
I hugged her and told her yes.
00:46:24.157 --> 00:46:27.243
The girls
have gotten into exercising
00:46:27.327 --> 00:46:29.580
to get out in great shape!
00:46:38.380 --> 00:46:41.133
At 9:00 p.m. you’re all
invited to go dancing.
00:46:41.217 --> 00:46:43.677
At 9:00 p.m. we’re going
dancing, hear me?
00:46:43.843 --> 00:46:46.095
You have to go dance!
00:47:06.115 --> 00:47:08.243
Anyone here have an ash tray?
00:47:10.912 --> 00:47:13.165
Do you have an ash tray,
\'aunt\' Dina?
00:47:15.042 --> 00:47:17.127
Here.
00:47:18.670 --> 00:47:20.797
I want my pipe!
00:47:22.715 --> 00:47:25.010
Here we are...
00:47:25.093 --> 00:47:27.553
Looking pretty.
00:47:29.263 --> 00:47:31.933
Get ready, we\'re going
to be on Facebook.
00:47:32.475 --> 00:47:35.937
Here we are, with the
girls of dorm 5.
00:47:36.020 --> 00:47:38.023
We\'re turned on!
00:47:38.107 --> 00:47:40.400
No?
00:47:40.483 --> 00:47:43.195
Yeah! Give it all!
00:48:27.613 --> 00:48:29.617
I’m in Europe!
00:49:56.327 --> 00:50:00.873
I think that
not seeing my children,
00:50:01.332 --> 00:50:03.627
led me to take in
the younger girls.
00:50:08.005 --> 00:50:10.967
When my daughter got
her first phone from her dad,
00:50:11.133 --> 00:50:13.512
I bought her prepaid data plans.
00:50:14.847 --> 00:50:16.890
I started calling her every day.
00:50:30.778 --> 00:50:33.490
One day her dad caught
her talking to me,
00:50:33.782 --> 00:50:35.617
and broke her phone.
00:50:37.118 --> 00:50:39.955
So, when he would get drunk,
00:50:40.288 --> 00:50:42.457
they would secretly
take his phone,
00:50:42.748 --> 00:50:44.292
to talk to me.
00:50:45.960 --> 00:50:49.297
“Mom, wait a minute,
I’m going to hide in the closet,
00:50:49.588 --> 00:50:51.550
so we can talk in peace.\"
00:51:03.812 --> 00:51:06.440
In one of those conversations
with my daughter,
00:51:07.107 --> 00:51:08.650
she asked me,
00:51:09.818 --> 00:51:11.612
“Hey Mom,
00:51:11.695 --> 00:51:13.947
who’s that Andrea
who posted
00:51:14.072 --> 00:51:16.492
on Facebook how much
she loved you?
00:51:20.412 --> 00:51:23.582
I explained her that Andrea
was my daughter, too.
00:51:29.587 --> 00:51:33.592
“Sure, so you left us
to be a mom to other people.”
00:51:40.432 --> 00:51:43.477
I tried to explain
that once I was out,
00:51:43.893 --> 00:51:46.187
we\'d be together forever.
00:52:35.195 --> 00:52:38.407
One day I went to get
a baby cologne
00:52:38.865 --> 00:52:41.450
and when I was walking
through the nursery
00:52:41.577 --> 00:52:43.118
I saw Andrea.
00:52:44.203 --> 00:52:46.205
She’d been arrested again.
00:52:47.373 --> 00:52:48.833
She was pregnant.
00:52:50.585 --> 00:52:53.588
I touched her belly
and gave her a little kiss.
00:52:59.427 --> 00:53:03.307
I told her, “When I’m free
and have a home...
00:53:03.682 --> 00:53:05.600
I’ll take you with me,
00:53:06.183 --> 00:53:08.520
so no more trouble, okay?”
00:53:10.105 --> 00:53:14.483
She said, “Yes Mommy, I want
to leave this life behind.”
00:53:22.700 --> 00:53:23.910
I...
00:53:25.120 --> 00:53:27.997
I feel that Andrea
and I are connected,
00:53:29.748 --> 00:53:34.462
I didn\'t give birth to her,
but it\'s as if I had.
00:54:02.157 --> 00:54:05.785
I waited years for the kids
to show up at Christmas.
00:54:07.037 --> 00:54:10.957
The girls and I would pitch in
and buy gifts in bulk.
00:54:14.127 --> 00:54:17.338
I tried to contact the
kids\' father several times,
00:54:17.422 --> 00:54:19.548
for him to bring them to me.
00:54:24.637 --> 00:54:27.015
I waited for seven years.
00:54:29.725 --> 00:54:31.268
The eighth year,
00:54:32.520 --> 00:54:35.398
they held the Christmas activity
00:54:36.065 --> 00:54:39.068
in the prison school courtyard.
00:54:41.697 --> 00:54:44.157
I was sitting
on one of the benches.
00:54:46.492 --> 00:54:47.993
And in the distance,
00:54:47.993 --> 00:54:51.915
I saw two big kids
walking hand in hand.
00:54:56.543 --> 00:54:58.295
They were my children.
00:55:56.103 --> 00:55:58.313
I didn’t know what to do...
00:55:58.773 --> 00:56:00.733
I didn’t know what to say.
00:56:08.825 --> 00:56:11.995
He hugged me and
kissed me, my baby.
00:56:14.705 --> 00:56:17.667
My daughter was
older, a young lady.
00:56:18.543 --> 00:56:22.297
I felt like I forced her
to grow up overnight.
00:56:24.173 --> 00:56:26.633
She wasn\'t into drugs yet.
00:56:31.430 --> 00:56:33.558
Then we went to a room,
00:56:34.308 --> 00:56:36.477
and the guard had to leave,
00:56:37.145 --> 00:56:39.063
and she left us alone.
00:56:40.648 --> 00:56:43.568
We spent the whole
afternoon together snuggling.
00:56:53.870 --> 00:56:56.497
Mom look, this is my bed.
00:56:57.915 --> 00:56:59.583
Okay? Okay, look.
00:56:59.917 --> 00:57:03.045
I\'m going to show you
the rest of the house.
00:57:03.212 --> 00:57:05.673
That was my bedroom.
00:57:06.800 --> 00:57:08.050
Okay, look.
00:57:08.843 --> 00:57:11.178
This is Uncle Nano\'s bedroom,
00:57:11.553 --> 00:57:14.348
who annoys me a lot because...
00:57:14.348 --> 00:57:15.808
I hate uncle Nano.
00:57:16.642 --> 00:57:18.060
And here,
00:57:18.853 --> 00:57:20.062
is the bathroom.
00:57:23.983 --> 00:57:26.027
Over here
00:57:26.027 --> 00:57:28.697
is the living and dining room.
00:57:28.697 --> 00:57:31.490
The living-dining room.
00:57:31.992 --> 00:57:33.618
I tell you later.
00:57:45.838 --> 00:57:47.215
My bed.
00:57:50.927 --> 00:57:54.680
My curtains, my plushies.
00:58:34.428 --> 00:58:36.430
On a cardboard calendar,
00:58:36.472 --> 00:58:39.433
I wrote down how many days
were left to leave.
00:58:48.525 --> 00:58:51.947
I was in my room all day,
I only went out to eat.
00:58:53.990 --> 00:58:57.410
I was afraid
of ending up in trouble.
00:58:59.828 --> 00:59:01.788
I didn\'t even take pills.
00:59:07.087 --> 00:59:09.755
They’d frame you
for anything, in there.
00:59:11.215 --> 00:59:14.427
I was afraid the guards
would frame me for drugs,
00:59:15.470 --> 00:59:17.388
of getting in a fight,
00:59:19.140 --> 00:59:23.352
or that there\'d be a shit-show
and I wouldn’t be able to leave.
00:59:28.942 --> 00:59:31.027
When my birthday passed,
00:59:31.068 --> 00:59:33.780
I said this is the last one.
01:01:12.087 --> 01:01:14.422
I was close to being released.
01:01:16.465 --> 01:01:19.010
It was Thursday morning
and the corporal called me
01:01:19.010 --> 01:01:21.262
because I had
an authorized visit.
01:01:24.223 --> 01:01:27.060
I thought it was strange,
who would come visit me?
01:01:35.693 --> 01:01:38.653
In the office were my sister
and my ex sister-in-law.
01:01:42.575 --> 01:01:45.243
When I saw my sister, I said,
\"What are you doing here?
01:01:45.243 --> 01:01:47.372
I don’t ever want
to see you again.”
01:01:50.833 --> 01:01:52.960
My sister cried
and looked at me.
01:01:56.338 --> 01:01:57.507
My ex sister-in-law said
01:01:57.507 --> 01:01:59.800
“Lucho was hit by a car
on Alameda Ave.”
01:02:03.972 --> 01:02:06.265
Since my kids’ father
was a pickpocket,
01:02:06.807 --> 01:02:10.853
I thought he was hit while
stealing someone’s necklace.
01:02:11.770 --> 01:02:14.523
So I said, “Go figure...”
01:02:18.903 --> 01:02:20.947
I thought about my kids,
01:02:21.363 --> 01:02:23.490
They’d be all alone.
01:02:24.117 --> 01:02:26.452
Who would take care
of them now?
01:02:35.168 --> 01:02:37.422
The guard interrupted us
and said,
01:02:38.672 --> 01:02:40.758
“Do you want to go
to the infirmary?
01:02:41.467 --> 01:02:43.302
Do you want an injection?
01:02:44.845 --> 01:02:47.432
I’m sorry that your son
was run over.”
01:02:53.603 --> 01:02:58.025
And I looked at her and said,
\"What are you talking about?
01:02:58.902 --> 01:03:01.612
If my son died,
my life would be over.”
01:03:09.537 --> 01:03:11.538
My sister kept crying.
01:03:13.833 --> 01:03:16.252
She said,
“Please sister, forgive me,
01:03:19.630 --> 01:03:21.965
Little Lucho was hit.
01:03:26.053 --> 01:03:28.222
A bus driver changed his route,
01:03:28.388 --> 01:03:31.600
the child was crossing, and got
caught in the back wheels.
01:03:36.813 --> 01:03:38.815
He didn\'t suffer.\"
01:03:54.457 --> 01:03:58.127
My daughter sent me a letter
asking for forgiveness.
01:03:58.835 --> 01:04:01.505
I told her
there was nothing to forgive.
01:04:03.007 --> 01:04:05.718
A child can’t
take care of another.
01:06:12.553 --> 01:06:13.220
Pancha.
01:06:13.303 --> 01:06:14.097
Gema.
01:06:14.180 --> 01:06:15.097
Jana, Esme.
01:06:15.180 --> 01:06:15.765
Yeral.
01:06:15.848 --> 01:06:16.682
Nicole, Aynara.
01:06:16.765 --> 01:06:17.767
Javiera, Carolita.
01:06:17.850 --> 01:06:18.933
Cristal, Ana.
01:06:19.477 --> 01:06:20.018
Mari.
01:06:20.102 --> 01:06:21.020
Ángel.
01:06:21.103 --> 01:06:22.397
Jessica.
01:06:23.272 --> 01:06:24.232
Jaque.
01:06:24.315 --> 01:06:24.898
Dayana, Adriana.
01:06:24.982 --> 01:06:26.400
Bárbara.
01:06:27.402 --> 01:06:28.152
Yesenia.
01:06:28.360 --> 01:06:29.903
Yennsy, Solange.
01:06:29.987 --> 01:06:31.447
Paty, Eugenia.
01:06:31.530 --> 01:06:32.532
Adriana.
01:06:33.073 --> 01:06:33.990
Dani.
01:06:34.075 --> 01:06:34.783
Nicole.
01:06:34.867 --> 01:06:35.533
Dominique.
01:06:56.472 --> 01:06:58.473
When I was in labor,
01:06:58.557 --> 01:07:01.102
they cuffed me and...
01:07:01.768 --> 01:07:04.147
my heart started racing.
01:07:12.362 --> 01:07:15.282
I told the doctor I felt ill.
01:07:15.365 --> 01:07:19.745
He said, “Shut up, stupid,
that’s from drug use.”
01:07:20.662 --> 01:07:22.288
I told him I didn’t do drugs.
01:07:22.330 --> 01:07:23.832
And he replied,
01:07:23.957 --> 01:07:27.252
“All you prison bitches
are drug addicts.\"
01:07:56.740 --> 01:08:00.160
The guard raced
to the ward to see her.
01:08:00.243 --> 01:08:03.163
She took photos of her
to show me.
01:08:05.498 --> 01:08:08.752
I couldn\'t see her
until the next day.
01:08:20.180 --> 01:08:22.432
When I got her,
I asked the midwife,
01:08:22.517 --> 01:08:24.685
\"This is my baby, right?\"
01:08:25.435 --> 01:08:26.728
And like a puppy,
01:08:26.728 --> 01:08:29.815
she started looking
for the teat with her nose.
01:08:38.157 --> 01:08:40.868
Now she\'s here with me.
01:09:51.000 --> 01:09:57.000
This story brings together
the experiencesof different women
01:09:57.002 --> 01:10:02.002
who lived their motherhood in prison.
Distributor: Pragda Films
Length: 74 minutes
Date: 2023
Genre: Expository
Language: Spanish
Grade: College, Adult
Color/BW:
Closed Captioning: Available
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